Make "Small Talk" Sexy

The Art of Small Talk

by Bobby Rio

Small Talk

I remember when I was first learning how to talk to women, I was deathly afraid of small talk. All of my mentors had warned me not to get stuck in boring small talk. So I steered clear of it.

Because of my reluctance to make small talk with women, I would instead, have long, intense deep conversations with them. Which almost always ended up with me in the friend zone.

I would create way too much rapport with women, and I would be completely afraid to break it. This continually lead to me wasting hours talking to a girl, without ever creating one drop of sexual desire.

After watching a bunch of my more ‘natural’ friends talk to women, I began to notice something that caught my attention. The friends of mine who were successful with women, were almost always using small talk to create attraction.

Except their small talk was anything but boring. It was fun, amusing, flirtatious, and exciting. And the women were eating it up.

Yes, these guys had mastered the art of small talk.

The Art of Small Talk

Small talk is truly an art form. While most people think making small talk just means talking about the weather, sports, or other ‘neutral’ topics, it actually can be just about anything. And can be quite powerful for building attraction if done right.

Here are suggestions for making small talk with women

1. Create Multiple Conversation Threads

Small talk becomes awkward when the two of you begin to sense that you have nothing to talk about other than the weather. But if you immediately introduce several ‘threads’ into the conversation, you are free to jump around from topic to topic, creating a sense of familiarity with the other person.

If you’re chatting with a woman about her job, drop in conversation threads about your last vacation or how you like to take your dog to the park. Anything that allows her to see that as a three dimensional person, and not just someone she is struggling to talk to.

2. Assume Rapport Right From the Start

The men and women who are the best at small talk, are usually the ones you feel most comfortable around. So what do these people do to make you feel so comfortable around them? Simple. They talk to you as if the two of you have been friends for years.

Instead of putting on that “phony” vibe we tend to muster when talking to a stranger, just simply talk to the strangers in the same tonality and conversational language that you would talk to your best friend with.

3. Be prepared to do Most of the Talking to Start

If you initiate a conversation with a woman, you must be ready to carry most of the small talk for the beginning of the conversation. This is because she isn’t yet warmed up.

Its like when you and your friends get into the “vibe” and suddenly everyone is pitching in different jokes and stuff… you needed time to warm up. She does to. Remember, you approached her. Before you approached her she could have had a million other things on her mind. So you need to slowly get her to open up to you, and kick start her social vibe.

If you follow these three tips for perfecting the art of small talk, you’ll be much more likely to have good conversations with the women that you’re approaching.

==> Click here to learn more about mastering “sexual” small talk

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My Thoughts on Vin DiCarlo’s Pandora’s Box System

by Bobby Rio

My Pandora’s Box Review Video

==> http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/PandorasBox

I can admit when i’m wrong.

For many years, I’ve held the idea that basically all women are fundamentally the same, and that you can go about attracting them with the same tactics and techniques.

But my view point changed after reviewing Vin Dicarlo’s course “Pandora’s Box”

You see most women DO succumb to the same attraction “triggers” that are known to get a girls wet in the panties for you….

However I learned a valuable lesson from Pandora’s Box….

Most women will REACT completely differently when they begin feeling the attraction. And this is where you might be blowing it… when seconds ago she seemed totally hot for you…

Yes, its true. While most women are attracted to the same “triggers,” how you proceed after sparking the initial attraction varies among all of the different 8 personality types that Vin lays out in Pandora’s Box

Maybe you’ve experienced it. You had a great time with a woman… she seemed to totally like you. But now, over text message she seems to be quickly slipping through your fingers…

I remember a couple years back after years of frustration, I finally hooked up with one of my close female friends, Denise.

For a week I was in a complete state of BLISS… but less that a week later… not only was I no longer hooking up with her.. but I also lost her as a friend.

When I tell you that I replayed the events in my mind over and over and over again…that would be an understatement. I literally analyzed the situation from every possible view point.

Except one.

After going through Pandora’s Box, I’ve come to realize that I was pursuing Denise in the exact OPPOSITE way she responds to attraction.

==> http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/PandorasBox

Denise was what Vin refers to as a “Private Dancer” personality and the entire time I was purusing her in the same standard way

I pursued most girls at the time.

In fact, as I read Vin’s description of how to seduce a “private dancer” my jaw dropped, as he was describing Denise to a tee… and there was no doubt in my mind that Denise would have responded to the exact strategy that Pandora’s Box lays out for girls of her personality type.

When you download Pandora’s Box system, you’ll get one of the only ONLY guides for creating specific strategies based on a woman’s unique personality type. (Vin has identified 8 common ‘types’)

In addition, you’ll recieve a quiz you can use to identify her ‘type’ quickly (its more accurate that you could imagine) and easy to memorize so you can mentally go through it in minutes at a bar or club…

Next, you’ll get two free weeks of his PHD program where he gives in depth video analysis of each type, interview real live women, who fit the ‘type’ plus advanced strategy guides for seducing them.

Finally, you’ll get “Speed Mindreading” a free bonus that teaches you how quickly extract all the necessary information to get inside her head, and figure out her deepest core desires.

Overall, I think Pandora’s Box is an incredible program that will give you the tools to connect with women more powerfully, know how to proceed after sparking the attaction, and literally talk for hours with a girl without ever running out of things to say…

I recommend that you go to hi site right now and download it.

==> http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/PandorasBox

I hope you found this helpful, and I’d love to hear your thoughts on Pandora’s Box

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More on the Blockbuster Preview Kiss

by Bobby Rio

A few weeks ago I posted this video I made with Rob Judge about his technique “the blockbuster preview kiss“.

I got a lot of questions about that technique. So I sent Rob the questions, and he answered them here.

Do you go for the kiss without getting “signals” that she’s ready? How much time into the interaction are we talking about?

Don’t focus so much on signals. The only signal you should be looking for is that the girl is talking to you. There’s no social contract that forces people to talk to random guys. If you’re chatting her up, she knows you’re hitting on her and she WANTS you to escalate. (If she didn’t, she’d make up some excuse not to talk to you.) So, really, the only signal you need is the girl in front of you.

As for the amount of time, it’s really your call. You can go for the kiss within 5 minutes of meeting a girl if you’d like. Usually I pull this out after about 10 minutes, when I have the girl isolated. Even if she doesn’t go for the kiss, she won’t get offended or angry. In fact, I’ve been with girls who’ve told me afterward that they found my “aggressive confidence” and huge turn on. Don’t be shy, don’t hold back. Do what you want to do

Best to try when she’s alone or with friends? Cuz hot women are very hard to find alone….

It’s best to do it when you have her isolated. That means she probably came with her friends (because you’re right, hot girls always travel in packs) but you separate her from her friends to a more secluded area of the bar. I sometimes even move girls 10 feet away–just enough room so she feels it’s “you and her.” NOT you, her, and her friends

Extra tip: When you isolate her, try to turn her body away from her friends so she can’t see them. If she’s constantly looking back at her friends, then she’ll feel insecure and uncomfortable about enjoying the kiss with you.

Extra EXTRA tip: Great ways to isolate girls are simply saying, “Hey, it’s a little noisy here and I’m enjoying getting to know you. Lets move over there where it’s more quiet.” or something to that effect…

Hope that helps

>>>Check out The 4 Elements of Game for more great tactics for picking up women.

Best,
ROB

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“How do I apply the three basic elements of humor: exaggeration, repetition, and mis-interpretation”

by Bobby Rio

Hey Bobby,

I have a question regarding implementing humor in replying to girls’ answers or reactions.

In your interview with Brad P, Brad P suggested in Conversation Escalation to use the three basic elements of humor: exaggeration, repetition, and mis-interpretation.

I understand the concept but I am having a difficult time implementing it. IE - turning a dull or generic reply into something funny.

I realized that most girls will give generic answers when they talk about their personalities or what their hobbies are.

It’s really difficult for me to turn those rather dull responses into something humourous.

For example, I recently said to a girl, “oh I am surprised to see you with a dog, because you totally look like a cat person”.

I was expecting her to ask me why I’d think that way, but instead, she simply said “oh, I used to have a cat, but I gave it away because my mom didn’t like it. She’s a dog person.”

Then I was stuck.

How can I use any of the three elements, exaggeration, mis-interpretation, repetition, to create a humorous reply based on this type of generic response?

I am sure if Brad P himself was there, he would’ve been able to come up with some really humorous and creative replies to the girl’s answer. But it’s really difficult for me at this stage, and I REALLY want to improve on implementing humor in my game.

Is there anything I can read that will shine some light on issue?

Appreciate your help again.

Thanks Bobby.

K.

Hey K.

I’m glad to see you’re out there practicing and working on the areas you need to improve…

Let me see if I can shed some light on this issue of using Brad P’s style of humor.

I’m going to give you an example of how you could have handled that situation. Using first absurdity, and then repeating the joke in various ways.

Before, I give you the example, what I also want you to understand… the humor doesn’t need to by funny, it just needs to be FUN. So never feel like you’ve got to come up with something groundbreaking.

And to get good at this, you need to begin practicing it a lot. Force you self to think in this way.

The Example

You: I’m surprised to see you with a dog, because you’re totally like a cat person

Her: Oh, I used to have a cat, but my mom gave it away because she didn’t like it She’s a dog person.

You: How could she give your cat away. We need to totally go to one of those cat shelters and adopt you the biggest baddest, FATTEST cat there. A big plump lazy orange cat… Do remember Gargamel from the Smurfs? What was his cat’s name. Azrael… Yea, were going get you a cat and were’ going to call her Azrael… and she can just sit on your lap and you can pet it all day… Come to think of it.. why do all the villains in cartoons have cats… remember inspector gadget… and Dr. Claw. The creepy guy who sat there petting his cat all day… I’m beginning to think cat people are evil… I think we should stop talking now (playfully turn to walk away)

Ok…

So now, you’ve established her as the villainous cat lady.

So later on in the conversation, you can throw in villainous cat lady jokes… Like you can imitate her petting her cat laughing a really evil laugh…

So what you basically did was create an absurd story about her getting a creepy orange cat, and then you repeat the joke in different ways throughout the night. You’ve assigned her the “role” of villainous cat lady. You don’t want to go overkill on the joke… but at various points when the situation calls for it, you can use a “cat lady” reference.

Like if you’re introducing her to one of your friends you could say, “This is Amanda… she’s a little evil.. just a little though. She has a big orange cat named Azrael.. I think she had a crush on Gargamel when she was younger or something, but she’s cool.”

I used references to cartoons from the 80s. But you can replace the Gargamel reference to something a girl in your age range would get….

Does that make sense?

Learn more about using FUN humor in Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy.

The ability to be “FUN” in a conversation is extremely important. You don’t need to be the funniest guy in the world. But you want to keep a constant “smile” on her face.

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