More on the Blockbuster Preview Kiss

by Bobby Rio

A few weeks ago I posted this video I made with Rob Judge about his technique “the blockbuster preview kiss“.

I got a lot of questions about that technique.  So I sent Rob the questions, and he answered them here.

Do you go for the kiss without getting “signals” that she’s ready? How much time into the interaction are we talking about?

Don’t focus so much on signals. The only signal you should be looking for is that the girl is talking to you. There’s no social contract that forces people to talk to random guys. If you’re chatting her up, she knows you’re hitting on her and she WANTS you to escalate. (If she didn’t, she’d make up some excuse not to talk to you.) So, really, the only signal you need is the girl in front of you.

As for the amount of time, it’s really your call. You can go for the kiss within 5 minutes of meeting a girl if you’d like. Usually I pull this out after about 10 minutes, when I have the girl isolated. Even if she doesn’t go for the kiss, she won’t get offended or angry. In fact, I’ve been with girls who’ve told me afterward that they found my “aggressive confidence” and huge turn on. Don’t be shy, don’t hold back. Do what you want to do ;)

Best to try when she’s alone or with friends? Cuz hot women are very hard to find alone….

It’s best to do it when you have her isolated. That means she probably came with her friends (because you’re right, hot girls always travel in packs) but you separate her from her friends to a more secluded area of the bar. I sometimes even move girls 10 feet away–just enough room so she feels it’s “you and her.” NOT you, her, and her friends ;)

Extra tip: When you isolate her, try to turn her body away from her friends so she can’t see them. If she’s constantly looking back at her friends, then she’ll feel insecure and uncomfortable about enjoying the kiss with you.

Extra EXTRA tip: Great ways to isolate girls are simply saying, “Hey, it’s a little noisy here and I’m enjoying getting to know you. Lets move over there where it’s more quiet.” or something to that effect…

Hope that helps ;)

>>>Check out The 4 Elements of Game for more great tactics for picking up women.

Best,
ROB

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“How do I apply the three basic elements of humor: exaggeration, repetition, and mis-interpretation”

by Bobby Rio

Hey Bobby,

I have a question regarding implementing humor in replying to girls’ answers or reactions.

In your interview with Brad P, Brad P suggested in Conversation Escalation to use the three basic elements of humor: exaggeration, repetition, and mis-interpretation.

I understand the concept but I am having a difficult time implementing it. IE - turning a dull or generic reply into something funny.

I realized that most girls will give generic answers when they talk about their personalities or what their hobbies are.

It’s really difficult for me to turn those rather dull responses into something humourous.

For example, I recently said to a girl, “oh I am surprised to see you with a dog, because you totally look like a cat person”.

I was expecting her to ask me why I’d think that way, but instead, she simply said “oh, I used to have a cat, but I gave it away because my mom didn’t like it. She’s a dog person.”

Then I was stuck.

How can I use any of the three elements, exaggeration, mis-interpretation, repetition, to create a humorous reply based on this type of generic response?

I am sure if Brad P himself was there, he would’ve been able to come up with some really humorous and creative replies to the girl’s answer. But it’s really difficult for me at this stage, and I REALLY want to improve on implementing humor in my game.

Is there anything I can read that will shine some light on issue?

Appreciate your help again.

Thanks Bobby.

K.

Hey K.

I’m glad to see you’re out there practicing and working on the areas you need to improve…

Let me see if I can shed some light on this issue of using Brad P’s style of humor.

I’m going to give you an example of how you could have handled that situation.  Using first absurdity, and then repeating the joke in various ways.

Before, I give you the example, what I also want you to understand… the humor doesn’t need to by funny, it just needs to be FUN.  So never feel like you’ve got to come up with something groundbreaking.

And to get good at this, you need to begin practicing it a lot.  Force you self to think in this way.

The Example

You:  I’m surprised to see you with a dog, because you’re totally like a cat person

Her:  Oh, I used to have a cat, but my mom gave it away because she didn’t like it She’s a dog person.

You: How could she give your cat away.  We need to totally go to one of those cat shelters and adopt you the biggest baddest, FATTEST cat there.  A big plump lazy orange cat… Do remember Gargamel from the Smurfs?  What was his cat’s name.  Azrael… Yea, were going get you a cat and were’ going to call her Azrael… and she can just sit on your lap and you can pet it all day… Come to think of it.. why do all the villains in cartoons have cats… remember inspector gadget… and Dr. Claw.  The creepy guy who sat there petting his cat all day…  I’m beginning to think cat people are evil… I think we should stop talking now (playfully turn to walk away)

Ok…

So now, you’ve established her as the villainous cat lady.

So later on in the conversation, you can throw in villainous cat lady jokes… Like you can imitate her petting her cat laughing a really evil laugh…

So what you basically did was create an absurd story about her getting a creepy orange cat, and then you repeat the joke in different ways throughout the night.  You’ve assigned her the “role” of villainous cat lady.  You don’t want to go overkill on the joke… but at various points when the situation calls for it, you can use a “cat lady” reference.

Like if you’re introducing her to one of your friends you could say, “This is Amanda… she’s a little evil.. just a little though.  She has a big orange cat named Azrael.. I think she had a crush on Gargamel when she was younger or something, but she’s cool.”

I used references to cartoons from the 80s.  But you can replace the Gargamel reference to something a girl in your age range would get….

Does that make sense?

Learn more about using FUN humor in Conversation Escalation:  Make Small Talk Sexy.

The ability to be “FUN” in a conversation is extremely important.  You don’t need to be the funniest guy in the world.  But you want to keep a constant “smile” on her face.

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Tip for Avoiding Awkward Silences

by Bobby Rio

I just got this question from a reader:

Hey Bobby,

My biggest frustration is running out of things to say during a conversartion with a girl, specially when I feel that she wants to talk to me. I have an opportunity for a good kiss close and suddenly I don’t have it any more….that really sucks.  It seems that once the conversation hits that awkward silence she is no longer interested in me.  Do you have any tips.

Thanks,

Jose

Ah… my biggest fear.

For me, I was more afraid of the awkwardness of having nothing left to say- than I ever was of rejection.  In fact, if a woman openly rejected me- I could take it.  What I couldn’t take was standing there not knowing if I should keep talking to her, or give up.  I hated thinking the woman was just being polite and really wished I would leave.

But here is thing…

The easiest way to completely eliminate awkwardness is to acknowledge it in a humorous way.

By calling out the “elephant in the room” and saying what you’re both thinking… it demonstrates that you are socially intelligent.  And social intelligence is EXTREMELY attractive to a woman.

It’s sort of like if you’ve ever had a girl turn her cheek when you went for the kiss.  The worse thing to do is pretend it didn’t happen.  Because the both of you know you tried to kiss her- so you’re not fooling anyone by acting “cool” about it.

Just say (in a mocking ‘announcer type’ voice) “And she slips him the cheek”. This sort of humorous response will put you both back at ease.

Women fear awkwardness even more than men do… so by showing a woman you have enough social intelligence not to let things get awkward… you become a lot more attractive in her eyes.

You might also want to listen to Conversation Escalation:  Make Small Talk Sexy.  In this program we specifically tackle how to keep a conversation going.. so that you never have to face these moments.

We also walk you through the escalation from small talk to sexual talk.  This way, next time your close to the point where you’re about to kiss a girl.. you’ll know exactly what your next move is.  And exactly how to counter any of her objections, so that you can get the kiss.

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How to Increase Attraction and Escalate Physically with a Woman

by Bobby Rio

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So, I’ve been getting a lot of questions- and some killer stories from all of you who are implementing this stuff- so I just wanted to answer another questions here on the blog.

I decided to choose another question on escalation because that seems to be what a lot of you are still struggling with. And it is super important in order to get girls attracted to you on a sexual level.

Hi Bobby,

Thanks for your cool program, I think I improved a lot in my conversation with girls recently after buying your program. It’s definitely working for me.

I am still working on my voice and a confident Body language, like having throw back shoulders, etc. After I took your program now I think I can talk to girls and build rapport successfully. But I think I have a stick point on physical escalation.

I still have trouble with not knowing when to escalate physically, but I did successfully put sex in every conversation with newly met girls and get them to talk about it without awkwardness. I can have long chat with girls now. But I think because I don’t know when to physical escalate, I kinda end up in a friend zone after chatting with them for hours (last time I even chatted with girls until 3 AM right before pub close)

So I guess I need to know how to increase attraction and when to escalate physically. Any suggestion from you would be cool.

Thanks,

E.

Glad to hear your enjoying the program..

So let me see if I understand…

You’re able to carry a conversation with a girl… and get a pretty good rapport with her…  but you either don’t spot the opportunity to escalate or don’t know how to… so after talking for awhile you wind up too much of a friendly level….

I know that feeling well…. My story from “The Small Talk Tactics” report was very similar to what you’re describing….

I get the sense that now that you’ve gotten good at building rapport…. you’re too scared to break it.

You enjoy having these conversations with girls and you don’t want to risk losing the connection… not only that, but you’re not really sure how to do it?

So let me see if I can give you some help…

Here is the thing…  you are the man.  You have COMPLETE and TOTAL responsibility to be the one who escalates and gets physical…

If you continue to wait for her to give you signs- you’ll more than likely keep winding up in the friend zone ( I say this out of experience)

Now, I just finished a really good training lab lesson on the topic of escalation that will be out in a few weeks… but I want to sum up some quick points that you want to make sure you do…

1.  You need to make a statement of intent. Its not good enough to just get her talking about sex.   At some point you have to make it clear to her that you’re attracted to her in a sexual way.

This could be by saying something as simple as “That perfume you’re wearing is really driving me wild… what is it?”

2.  You need to begin touching her and continue to escalate the touch.  Read this article:

http://www.tsbmag.com/2006/10/17/a-step-by-step-ladder-of-escalation/

3.  You need to break rapport.  Meaning if you begin talking about one topic too long- break the rapport by flirting, teasing her, getting direct…

You want to bring her back to the moment…

4.  Use things like cold reads to get direct with her.

Say things like “When I first met you I was expecting you do be a little dull… but you’ve got a really cool personality… I like that.   But the question is… can you cook?”

5.  Use an attraction test like the “hi five test”  to see how comfortable she is with you...

http://www.tsbmag.com/2009/10/22/how-to-tell-if-a-girl-likes-you-%E2%80%A6-5-signs-to-look-for/

6. Remember, as you’ll hear Sixty Years of Challenge say in our upcoming training class on escalation:

“Escalation is Attractive”

This means the mere fact you are escalating with her- is going to make her more attracted to you…

7. Finally, don’t be scared to lose a girl because you go for it and she turns you down… Its ALWAYS better to get denied… than to never try.  She will think of you much more as a man if you try… if you don’t, she’ll think you’re either scared… or gay.

Hope that helps… and keep an eye out for the upcoming lesson on Escalation in a few weeks….

Bobby

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How to “Differentiate” Yourself From Other Guys [VIDEO]

by Bobby Rio

How to Stand Out From the Other “Orbiters” in Her Life

Awhile back, many of you filled out a survey and one of the questions that many of you asked was:

“How do I standout from other guys…”

The thing I’ve been trying to get across to you over the past couple months is that by using this “sexy” small talk I’ve been teaching… you will automatically differentiate yourself from the crowd.

What exactly is “sexy” small talk?

I refer to “sexy small talk” as conversation that is fun, playful, and flirtatious.

For a long time I only had two modes; either I was in boring “interview” mode or I was in deep rapport talking about serious topics.

What I realized is that most real attraction takes place during the light, playful, back and forth banter that takes place early in a conversation.

Once you really begin to understand this; a whole new world opens up.

I used to think that I had to talk to a girl for awhile and have this incredibly intense conversation to get her attracted to me… but that’s just not the case.

In fact, a lot of times having an intense conversation with a woman creates too much rapport- and it’s impossible to pull back and shift gears into a more sexual realm.

What’s great about “sexy small talk” is that you can whip it out anywhere. Whether you’re in class talking with a classmate, at your job, in the bank, or a grocery store… you’re just ALWAYS ON - and you’re the guy that women want to talk to…

This doesn’t mean you’re going to get 100% of the girls you’re talking too. But it does mean that no matter who you’re talking to your both going to enjoy the conversation.

It beats the hell out of that boring, ‘try hard’, conversation that most of us have suffered through at some point.

And since most guys aren’t doing this… you immediately stand out as a guy who “gets it”

Hope that clarifies what “sexy” small talk is.

If you want to read more about it, check out the information on my course Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy

http://www.conversationescalation.com

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How to Display “Value” to Women

by Bobby Rio

low value man in bar drinking alone

So I’m going to start using this blog to answer a lot of the questions that I’m being asked.  I’m going to choose questions that are being asked a lot.  If you have any questions you want answered, just leave them in the comment section below.

Hi Bobby,

I guess I do have a question for you, what do we have to offer women?

This may come off as having a low self esteem,but I’m not rich or famous, I have a job and a car. The only thing bad is I live at home due to the economy sucking so bad! I just have a hard time seeing what a women would want to do with me.

G.

Hey G.,

You know you’re actually the third person today that has written a similiar question…

And I can totally relate to it.. because I’ve been at points in my life where i felt that i couldn’t compete with guys who had more money, status,looks than me…

Now before I give you my answer…

I did a training class for an upcoming mentorship lesson with Kezia, a really hot woman who teaches pickup…

And I asked her this exact question

“For a beautiful woman like you and your friends… how important is status”

You’ll get the full lesson soon… but here is a summary of what she said.

1.  Status is important to women….

2.  If you don’t have status and you’re UNAPOLOGETIC about it- thatis equally attractive  (meaning you don’t seemed fazed by it- and aren’t trying to conceal it and aren’t insecure about it)

3.  She said when she was in her most “status chasing” phase a few years back- chasing soccer players in England… she actually fell for a guy at the bar who had no status.. but actually made her laugh and see how ridiculous she was for only going for soccer player…

So that is her opinion…

My opinion is this…

1.  A woman does not know your status level when talking to you.

2.  She looks for clues as to what kind of status you have.

3.  If you’re comfortable bantering with her, flirting, and getting sexual with her….   SHE WILL ASSUME YOU HAVE HIGH STATUS- because usually only high status men hit on her in this way..

>>>If you don’t know how to flirt and banter with her in an exciting and attractive way I suggest going through my Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy program

4.  Once a woman is attracted to you… status means a lot less.  So even if she later finds out you live at home or are going through a rough point- she’ll still be attracted.

5.  Remember, women live in a “boredom trance” and crave emotionalimpact in their lives… a woman would choose this impact over status any day of the week.

The main reason women crave status in the first place is because they believe it will lead to more excitement in her life…

Provide her with the excitement- she’ll forget about status.

6.  Trust me, my girlfriend is completley status obsessed. Yet, When I met her I was 28 years old living with 4 roommates in a dirty house.  And i was barely working and could hardly afford to take her anywhere…

And I can name at least 5 guys i know personally who have pulled some of the hottest women ive seen- and are broke as a joke.

7.  The living at home thing is rough for sure… I understand that.  And you may lose a few girls for that reason from time to time…

Im going to give you some advice I got from Roosh V (who was 29 and living at home-banging chicks)

Avoid telling a woman you live at home until you’ve already gone out with her a few days and created a good attraction…

Hope that helps…

If you have any more specific questions let me know…

Bobby

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