Make Small Talk Sexy

Small Talk Tactics

Here’s a new edition of my podcast “A Lifetime of Girl Getting Secrets.” In this episode I go through my Small Talk Tactics report and explain all the ways you can take normal conversations and make them more fun and exciting.

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Episode 4: Small Talk Tactics Revealed

In this episode I go through my popular Small Talk Tactics report and discuss exactly what you need to do to bring a conversation from friendly to sexual. You’ll also learn 6 of my all-time favorite techniques to quickly create a flirtatious vibe.

In this episode you’re going to learn:

4 Conversation games to keep things interesting
The one ingredient most guys leave out of their conversations
How to use a “role” to keep things exciting
Examples of the best roles to use
Why you need to break rapport

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The “Autonomous Man”

The other night I was in NY City at some raw restaurant with my friend Jay…

(side note: raw food is A LOT better than I expected)

We were talking about girls. (as usual)

And we got to discussing the idea of “confidence.”

More specifically we were riffing on exactly what girls mean when they say “I want a confident guy.”

Initially we were tossing out words like “boldness”, “fearless”"cocky”, “assertive”…

But none of them seemed to encapsulate the essence of the what girls are drawn to.

None of those characteristics could explain why some guys had girls CHASE THEM for years.

And then we stumbled onto a word, and a MAJOR LIGHT BULB went off in my mind.

The word is “Autonomous”

The word essentially means “self governing” or “independent.”

A man willing to walk away.

A man so content with his own life, his own goals, his own direction that she can NEVER fully have him.

Nothing thrills a girl more than winning the attention of a man. Its that “chase” that most girls are drawn to.

The problem for most guys is that they are so hungry, desperate, and eagerly anticipating the moment that “miss right” pops into the picture that they immediately scare her away.

She wins his attention too easily. Without a fight.

And no one (especially girls) wants what is easy to obtain.

The “Autonomous Man” on the other hand can NEVER be completely won over.

He can be attracted to her.
He can be sexually drawn to her.
He can enjoy her company.
He can even imagine a future with her.

But his goals, his vision, his personal direction will dictate that future.

And if she’s not on board…

He is more than willing to WALK AWAY.

And she can sense this. It turns her on. It excites her.

She wonders….

What can SHE do to win his full attention?

How can she please HIM in a way no other girl has?

How can SHE show him she is more special, more sexual, more fun than all the other girls he’s been with?

THIS is a challenge that she just can’t resist.

So the question you must ask yourself is “Am I Autonomous?”

Bobby

P.S. When you feel incomplete, lacking, insecurity, self doubt, or impotent its impossible to be autonomous. Because you’re looking
for the woman to fix you.

The first step in becoming “Autonomous” is fixing what’s broken inside YOU.

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How to Handle the Boyfriend Excuse

Ok so I here’s another episode of my brand new podcast “A Lifetime of Girl Getting Secrets.” In this podcast I’m going to talk specifically about one of the biggest questions I get from men. And its more than likely something you’ll experience during a night out .

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Episode 3: When She Says “I have a boyfriend”

In this episode of Girl Getting Secrets I’m going to walk you through the “boyfriend excuse” and show you exactly how to handle it so that you’re not left there feeling like a chump.

The three reasons why a girl will say “I have a boyfriend”
When to walk away from a girl, and when to know she’s really attracted to you
How to handle all three situations in which she’ll bring up a boyfriend
Lines to counteract it
and much more

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How to “Unlock” Her Inibitions

A few years ago I went on a few dates with this girl Lisa…

She seemed eager to hang out with me. She laughed at my jokes. And I could tell that she was trying hard to IMPRESS ME.

Yet, she became “frigid” every-time I tried to touch her. And seemed to avoid any physical contact with me toward the end of the date…

(I couldn’t even get a “good night kiss”)

I was frustrated and was about to move on…

Three dates without a kiss meant I was dangerously close to the friend zone (like one foot already in close)

My first thought was to blame Lisa… I figured maybe she was one of those girls who was not sexually comfortable (and would be boring in bed anyway)…

But I had heard enough stories about “innocent” seeming girls who turned out to be freaks in the bedroom that I decided to “crack the code” and put a little more time in…

So I began replaying our dates in my mind to see what I could have been doing differently…

Our dates were continually following this specific pattern:

1. I’d create some rapport by talking about some common friends we had, stuff like that…

2. I would flirt a bit with her, she would be receptive

3. I’d move closer to her or go to touch her and she would ”freeze up” or change the subject back to something like her job or our common friends

What was I missing? What was I doing wrong?

Here’s what I realized…

Lisa was only 20. This meant that she could not drink on our dates… (something i wasn’t used to at the time)

By her nature, Lisa was slightly “inhibited”. And without alcohol to loosen her up, she felt she had to guard her sexuality…

I was trying to make my move without first “lubricating” her a bit. (sounds kind of dirty

Our next date I took a different approach (the EXACT approach I talk about in this video)

I realized I needed to create “sexual rapport” with her. She needed to feel comfortable expressing her sexuality around me.

I had to “verbally” loosen her up.

The next time we went out I made it a point to steer the conversation towards sexuality.

But here is the distinction: I got HER talking about it.

And then I rewarded her for it. And slowly she became more and more comfortable with the topic of sex around me…

How did I do it?

I started off with a very simple “sexual challenge”…

We had been talking going to the beach and I said:

“You’re not one of those girls who wears a one piece bathing suit are you? Any girl who wears a one piece clearly wears granny panties too”

(I said in a very playful way)

And she laughed and said “No. I wear a two piece. And I definitely don’t wear granny panties”

I said “Prove it. Let me see.”

She kind of lifted her shirt a little bit, and slid her jeans down a tad so I could see her thong.

I rewarded her: “Those are definitely sexier panties then I was expecting”

And with that one exchange I noticed a total shift in her…

Her inhibitions had suddenly disappeared.

It was like she just needed my approval to express a little of her sexuality…

And once I did…

OH MAN… lol

Later that night she came back to my place and proved my theory that most often its the ‘innocent seeming ones’ that are the biggest freaks in the bedroom…

This is why its important to master the art of “sexualized flirting” (watch this video here)

Make it happen!

Bobby

P.S. Previously I been teasing and flirting with Lisa… but had not loosened her up to expressing her sexuality around me.

So when I tried to escalate she wasn’t ready for it. It was almost like she felt I would judge her negatively if she allowed me to escalate.

More girls have this ‘insecurity’ than you would imagine. Which is why you must master the art of sexual communication.

Its your way of letting her its OK to unleash her inner slut around you.

check out this video: http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/to/downshift-2

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Sexualizing Your Conversations

So, first off, I’ve got a brand new podcast available on Itunes called “A Lifetime of Girl Getting Secrets.” In this podcast I’m going to share some of the biggest insights I’ve learned over the years about women.

You can subscribe to the podcast here: (subscribe to the podcast on Itunes)

Episode 2: Sexualizing Your Conversations

In this episode of the Lifetime of Girl Getting Secrets podcast I’m interviewed by Wing Girl Marni. It was a very fun interview where we discussed all aspects of moving a conversation from “friendly” to “Flirty”. And we talk about the necessity to break rapport and some point and turn the conversation sexual.