How to “Not” Get Over a Girl
Mike, Justin, and I coined the phrase “the sickness” back in college.
The “sickness” is like oneitis on steroids.
I call it “the sickness” because once it infects you’re almost powerless against its control. It corrupts your mind first, but then usually brings about physical symptoms like nausea, vomiting, weight loss, depression, insomnia.
It happens to the best of us… and even though we most likely know we’ve been infected, it is still near impossible to battle. Even as our closest friends tell us to “move on” “play it cool” “forget about her” their words go in one ear and out the other.
While the only cure for “the sickness” is time… I thought that if I wrote a detailed description of how the sickness infects (using my last battle with it as an example) you guys might be able to keep this as a guide to compare against when you feel it coming on. Although I won’t pretend that you’ll be able to rid yourself of your obsession, at the very least, you may be able to avoid some of the classic mistakes that I made.
The Anatomy of The Sickness
After slowly falling for one of my female friends over the course of a year, everything came to a boil on a ski trip. I knew in my head that it was now or never time for making my move. Weeks before the ski trip I began avoiding her before heading up to the mountain. I wanted to create a fresh persona, and distance myself from the friend zone that I had previously been regulated to.
The first night of the ski trip I made a dramatic change in the way I interacted with her. I became more sexual, alluded to
her attractiveness, and got more touchy feely.
Although initially she seemed a little taken back, slowly she responded to my escalation. By the end of the night we were lying on my bed making out. The next day she told me it was a mistake and that she liked me too much as a friend to continue.
But I persisted again that night, and once again she wound up on my bed with me making out. We spent the rest of the trip basically locked in my bedroom. To be completely honest, it was like nothing I had experienced before. I don’t know if it was the sexual tension that had built up over the last year, our strong connection as friends, or just my flat out physical attraction to her, but I was in a state that I had never previously experienced.
Although I left the week in the mountains feeling quite vulnerable, I was fairly confident that she felt the same way. In fact, I would say my confidence was sky high. I was on top of my game.
The first couple nights back home went ok. The girl and I exchanged evening text messages. I was in “play it cool” mode so I figured I would wait a few days to call her.
Friday afternoon I could hardly contain my excitement to possibly spend time with her. While still at work I sent her a text “I want to see you. Bad!” I expected an immediate response with her echoing the sentiment. I waited and waited… but the response never came.
I was still in “play it cool” mode so I decided to hit the bar with a couple of my friends. My mind was on the girl a bit, but I wasn’t too worried as she had a habit of flaking throughout our friendship. After the bar closed I an after party back at my house. Quite drunk at ths point, I went against my better instinct and called her. And when she didn’t answer I left a message. I fell asleep that night with the phone in my hand, still waiting for the call.
Saturday morning is when I went into panic mode.
The realization that she didn’t call set in. I began scanning my brain for reasons why she would be blowing me off. I began asking the opinion of a few of my friends. They all reassured me telling me “its only been a day.” I would momentarily feel better, then remember our wonderful week together in the mountains and get stuck in my mind trying to figure out what went wrong.
Somewhere in between Saturday and Sunday I convinced myself the reason that she’s avoiding me is because she doesn’t trust that I’m really into her. It made sense in my mind. She knows I’m a player.
I figured that what I needed to do was to prove to her that I was really into her. So I went against my better instinct and headed to the flower shop on Monday morning. I bought the biggest baddest most expensive bouquet of flowers they had, and had arranged for them to be delivered to her work Tuesday night… complete with a really embarrassing card basically professing my love.
Monday night she calls me at one in the morning. My “wet friend” tells me not to answer the phone and give her a taste of her own medicine… but “dry friend” intervenes and I wind up talking her into coming over. When she gets to my house she acts nonchalant about not calling… and I forgive her immediately. We make out a little while… I eat her pussy.. then she leaves.
The next morning I debate whether or not to cancel the flowers. I decide to still send them. Later in the night I get a call from her thanking me for the flowers. I ask her to hang out but she says she’s tired and is just going to sleep.
I wait till Friday to call her again. Once again… no answer. I proceed to go out with a friend, get extremely drunk… and take home some 18 year old hostess I worked with. But even a fresh young 18 year old couldn’t deter me from the beginning of “the sickness.”
The next two months are a blur. They basically consist of me checking my phone every three minutes to see if she called. The few times she actually does call or text… I am too weak to play the game. For a minute or two I tell myself I’m not going to call her back… but then I give in and call. She keeps avoiding seeing me. I try to play it cool and act like I don’t care. Then later in moments of weakness I send her text messages asking “whats going on with us” and other shit I get nauseous thinking about.
Finally two months later I get really drunk and show up at her work. She is almost frightened to see me. I am plastered but somehow talk her into heading out for a couple drinks with me. I’ve finally got her in front of me after two months of playing phone tag… but its nothing like I imagined. In my mind… she was going to confess her love to me, tell me how much she’s missed me… and wind up cuddled next to me on my bed.
How the night ended- was me completely shit faced handing her a love letter I wrote her… her taking the letter and leaving… never even calling me to acknowledge it. As time went by I gave up hope of her calling.
The mess that Bobby Rio had become was finally starting to put the pieces of his life back together. He was dating a new girl… finally starting to get over “the sickness.”
But I couldn’t leave well enough alone. I knew that there would be an annual Christmas party at the place she worked. I had friends that still worked there. So once again, I go out get completely shit faced and show up at her work party with one of my friends.
The night started out pleasant enough… I spent time catching up with a handful of old friends… chatting with her whenever the occasion would allow. But as I got drunker the cool guy shell I had been putting on was slowly cracking. I began asking her questions alluding to “the weekend we spent together.” It was clear she didn’t want to talk about.
Then I began noticing that her and one of her co-workers were awfully close. I didn’t feel threatened because I knew the guy, and never would imagine her to be into him… but as I got drunker it made more and more sense. Everything was becoming crystal clear… (in my drunk distorted mind) SHE WAS FUCKING THIS GUY.
So I did the only thing a drunk sick bastard could do… I followed him into the bathroom and punched him square in his jaw. The next thing I know we’re ushered out to the parking lot… We’re rolling on the pavement pounding on each other’s skulls… sticking fingers in our eyes.. I think I may have even bit him.
Finally the rest of the party breaks up the fight… they put me in a cab and send my sad sick drunk ass home.
Bobby Rio woke up the next morning at Rock Bottom.
I’m going to leave this story without commentary. It is simply meant to show how the sickness can take hold of anyone. At that point in my life I already knew everything there was too know. I was banging chicks left and right.. always the one with the control and calling the shots…
And I fell like a toy soldier.
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Hey Boby,
Sad story. Hit me too last september. Even though I did clearley NOT know wht there was to know I knew better than what I did at that times.
As u said: Sometimes even the best become toy soldiers. And fall like them.
GZ
Mike
yea… the best is to just learn from it… and hope it doesn’t happen again
Thanks for sharing Bobby… This really helps make what i’m going through easier… just knowing that you went through it too…
By the way, absolutely love Conversation Escalation… the interview with El Topo was my favorite as everything he said about being shy and still being the dominant one in the conversation really rung true… Been using his tips and finding them really effective..
now if i can just kick this oneitis… haha
Your the man Bobby…
Really courageous to share this story. We’ve all been there buddy.
I’m looking forward to checking out more of your stuff… Really feel like I’ve gotten
to know you over the past couple months… thanks for sharing
Been there, done that. Thank for sharing.
You banged her too. Isn’t this enough to prove that she did like you? Why didn’t you try harder?
It is not like the guy she is banging is married with her.
But I really don’t know… I would try harder if I really liked the girl.
You just kind of gave up.
The reason she took your love letter is because she valued your love for her. Whether she feels genuine attraction or not towards you is up to you to make it happen. And you didn’t continue after falling.
But then again, you beated up the other guy. That might have made it more discouraging for you to face her again. But like you said, you can always change things around.
I’m really confused now..
and it is not too late to chase her now. but then again i guess feelings get lost over time…
haha don’t mess my head up again… im actually in relationship now.. and happy. Can’t say she doesn’t cross my mind from time to time.
Sad story man! I’m kinda “sick” too right now and I must be careful. I hope I can make it
She took the letter because she was probably creeped by your neediness. Good story, don’t be clingy.
You have loss the control, that’s what happened. You may perhaps felt what is Love, whitout the self conception. Put it this way.. if you are afraid to lose it, it ain’t Love –>become needy –>dependant. It was kind of a direct attack on your condition. But the good news is that we are all in the process of returning to that needyless state –something we think we loose but it can’t be lost..never. This is a surety that you won’t loose control and you know what.. that’s exciting…Have you ever heard that Love cannot be contained…that’s what we do , we give it, we share it and if it grows something the better.. but it’s a result, not the cause.. you are the cause. It is better to correct the mind, the rest will follow. At last.. the experience is no loss.. there is no such thing as loss. Keep on going deny fear, sickness.. Can we loose Love ?
I’ve become obsessed about a girl in the past who friend-zoned me. I woke up one morning and made a decision to blow her off my mind for a while. I concentrated on other women in my life, and I’ve got a network of girls who I go out with.
Now she sends me text messages and I only reply when I feel like it. I’m pretty sure she’s into me sexually now, but I’m keeping my cards closer to my chest this time. I’ve got other prospects. That’s the key, I think – she puts a greater value on me now. Wouldn’t you agree Bobby?
Definately man…. Even the girl in this story… we went on to hook up again, but as soon as we did… I lost all the power once again.
Now, we talk from time to time, but I won’t go for it again… hahaha although at some point I’ll probably give in lol
But I think you’re handling it right man, the decision to blow her off was good, because nothing good can really come from going after a girl you’re friends with. I’ve seen A LOT of my friends destroy good friendship for shitty relationships…
Ha! You total legend…
Love your work man..
Man, what shit does all this learning about pick-up do, if you cant keep the one you want to keep?
i got the one I want right now… Other girls, just teach you lessons that you needed to learn at the time.
Yea, every one makes a mistake. Even top PUA does it. But whats more important is that we must learn these mistakes to gain experience so in the future we will have a better chance with a woman. Thanks for sharing Bobby.
Keeping a long story short ! Ive known this girl 4 long while we had awsome sex a while ago! But we dont seem too! As i want to i was seeing this girl and i had love sickness for which i got ovsso somtimes ingore her as u take so much as she still owes me a lot of money! I got ova that but still by right want it bk lol so stuck in a rut! But im starting to see otha women who i not right for me yet! But enjoy their company lol x.so what advice would u give!
Man…Been there done that. I know exactly how you felt, because I know how hard it can be to get over a girl you have grown on. What I find that works best for me is to hang out and date multiple girls so I never invest to much in one. Thanks again though, it takes courage to share these types of stories. It shows even the best of us make mistakes.
O.K i know that one,,,i hyave this theory that depending on how you initially associate yourself with a woman it kinda becomes part of your mentallity.just like the way a woman puts u initally either in the friend or lovers zone i say its the same with guyz..in detail i can say the reason you kept submitting and giving in was because you put yourself where in the “submitting zone” and every time tou went back you still found yourself getting back there..i have done something like that and like you i said “hey if i cant be in control and create attraction with her,then i gotta let go coz am just gonna become something LESS”and i moved on
That is definitely and interested theory Ian.. its funny because i was just talking to a friend about this experience last night.. and i always figure something new about myself out when I go back and look at how i acted
Hey man,
I’ve noticed a lot that the power of the mind plays a huge part, and that actions speaks so much louder than words. At the end of the day it’s all about KEEPING YOUR DIGNITY AND SELF-WORTH! Your will has to be larger than hers, and your will will be done (like the pun?
).
Remember the rules of Casanova in the movie:
1) If you want to be loved, you have to be worth loving. (Inner game)
2) Misery is not attractive. (Always be positive)
3) Be the flame, not the moth. (Don’t chase)
A good exercise is to pretend that you’re a smokin-hot woman. Would YOU want to date you? I rest my case, your Honour lol
Justo
Yeah, it does happen to the best of us… I made the same mistake about a year ago. It’s like watching a movie or reading a book without knowing how it ends. It sucks big time. Thanks for sharing your story, bobby.
It’s tough because you feel like you’re going down a path you can’t get yourself out of. You know what you’re doing goes against everything you’ve learnt but all you do is follow your instinct. When it comes down to feelings most of the time you throw your game out of the window. Worse thing is that when looking back you know that had you played it like you normally do you would have nailed it textbook. But you end up turning into a mushy newbie who thinks romantic gestures and feelings confessions are the solution. Big NO. Just not how the female mind works. Even if you had created big attraction before, you just managed to kill it quicker than you can say love.
So true man. It really is proof that human beings are more influenced and motivated by emotions than logic.
I have been through a similar situation. We were great together but could not get her off the Friend thing. The more I tried the worse it got. I relationship went from good to not to good. Its at the point now where we are not even friends. Now I am going after several other girls and am frightened not to make that mistake again. How do you know if she just wants to be friends or really wants to go deeper with out scaring her. I guess we have to learn by our mistakes.
Man I always fall for the Romantic-tipe. My game happened to be sweet enough to get her to fall in love with me; been together for 2month, but as of lately all we same to do is argue over little things.
I’m going thru this right now.. =’(
I got a female friend. We were like brother and sister. Then we had a drunk sex night… since then she is acting a little different but not avoiding me…
We still hang out as friends. I don’t even try to make out, but I throw some signs that I want her again and sometimes she responds well sometimes not.
But the truth is that I really fucking love her.. I think about her 24/7.. it is funless to be with other girls (but I do.. )
But I don’t call her all the time, not even everyday (we used to do this before…), I don’t show my feelings, I don’t do whatever she wants, I don’t act like a wussy… But it seems is going to nowhere…
I want her so bad but I can’t read her signs (I must be blind, and surely insecure)…
I don’t know what to do next. Do I disappear for a couple of weeks? (we never spend more than one week apart). Do I continue hanging out with her as friends and teasing her, being cocky and funny, and not doing everything she wants, etc??
Bobby, please throw me some lights in this issue please?? *-*
I’ll be waiting.. ;D
Thks!
My advice would be to hang out with her again (after a week or two apart) throughout the night, flirt, build sexual tension, and then kiss her… be a man about it all. Don’t tell her how you feel or anything ahead of time… just go for it.
Most likely she will shit test you and say “what are you doing?” Just brush her off and continue kissing her.
This is the only way to do it… will it definitely work? I don’t know. But atleast you’ll have gone for it like a man. And she will respect you more either way.
Hey,
I am in a similar position as Vladimir but without the sex. I am going to try the advice you gave to him but how can you build sexual tension with someone who sees you as a friend? Any examples?
Only reason I ask is because if you change from the norm, she will think something is up right? Articles on websites only refer to building sexual tension with someone you newly met but can this also apply to someone you already know?
Look forward to your reply,
Hey V,
Read these two articles:
http://www.tsbmag.com/2008/07/18/how-to-turn-a-female-friend-into-your-girlfriend-part-1-day-26/
http://www.tsbmag.com/2008/07/21/how-to-get-your-female-friend-into-bed-part-2-day-27/
Hey Bob,
It’s been more than a month since my last contact.
I haven’t got the opportunity to do what you told me to do. The problem is that she doesn’t stay alone with me anymore. Probably she does it on purpose. I invite her over sometimes, and she says that she can’t trust me yet. She is clearly blaming me for what happen. But I never apologize!
But we still hang out, as friends. And that is where I think i am doing it wrong. I don’t act wussy (I naturally can’t do that anymore), but I act friendly, too much friendly.
As I said, she is avoiding getting alone with me. And when we hang out, there are always another friends along. Before, I always took her home last. Now she goes home with someone else or this friends of ours sleeps over her house. I don’t know if she is dating other guys, but I don’t ask. And she doesn’t ask either.
Ps: We live in different cities, 50km appart, and I go there every weekend to see my family and my daughter (i have a beautiful one). So we see each other only on weekends, and all weekends had been the same. And we talk (and fight) over the internet during the week.
So I am thinking of not talking or comunicate to her for couple of weeks, then I’ll do what you say.
What do you think?
Thank’s for your help.
From a cold man in love. =/
Yes, Vladmir… might be good to distance yourself from her.. give the both of you time to get some perspective.
Hey Bob,
This sickness got me in the game, that was last year.
And I’ve spent every day since learning and practicing.
70% of my friends are females know (before 1 or 2 %).
I’m doing ok but I still think about her every day, it’s a bit like I owe her something, I need to make up for my mistakes (and I made all the mistakes you can dream of).
I still hope to become friends again but I’m not naïve about it.
Time will tell!
Hey Bob i really don’t know who you are but i guess you are not that good in this file i have check alot of experts and they always give better advice and like said you did loss that girl cuz you was so need and even you knew you still did it no to Vladmir a batter idea is that he need to taste her in some way but of course when you are in that things you always afried to loss her but take like this you have to risk it and take it either way you win her back or you loss her for real more over se loss you too but do in a colol way like when she call Bob after she never call and everytime she text he answeer rigth the way she had the power and not him or take it from David ” you are the one who should end up all interection so even if the conversation is so good when you see the sing that she is about to end it up whatever you are into just cut it end it up right the way so she will be the one that will istill in half way and want it more
So the girl I really like just told me she wants to be friends. I don’t know how I’m ever going to get over her. I’ve NEVER felt this way about anybody before. Its crazy that I got the email with this link literally the day after she told me this. Amazing coincidence. I just don’t want to give up on her but I’ve got no idea what to do.
My friends tell me to move on but I think its impossible. I’m going to a concert with her in June but I don’t really know if I should make a move then, or just accept the fact that she wants to be friends.
Hi Bobby,
I’ve been following you for quite a while now (following your work and not stalking). Okay so I guess I haven’t tried anything you’ve taught till now on any girl but I told it to one of my friends who used to crush on a girl and now he’s in a relation with her!!!
So as everyone here is sharing their story’s I have one of my own. So I had this recent phase in my life when I had no friends and in desperate need of some attention let alone female attention. So I went back to this childhood friend of mine who’s now super hot and very popular.
So same as your story goes we got talking for awhile and whenever she wouldn’t call or message I’d get “sick” and act crazy. Though I wasn’t attracted to her and didn’t want to be in a relationship with her (to be honest I wanted to fuck her so bad coz she was super hot as I said but she wouldn’t let me in a million years as she just saw me as a friend).
Soon enough I realised that I was addicted/obsessed to her and needed to break free.
So I gave up my phone as that was our only medium of contact. For a few days it felt bad but everything got better and easy over time.
Hey bobby,
I am relatively similar situation, an ex of mine 3 years of relation ship. I still really like her (the sickness) she has a new boy friend and I know that. But she still txts me and drunk phone calls to me, I rarely respond and deleted her number to get over her… Also I have told her countless times to leave me alone… She says she wants to be friends and it doesn’t mean any more to her, problem is I cant be friends with her because it hurts. It’s together or nothing….
I was wondering your opinion, of what you think is going on in her head?
Cheers
Jake W
I have to say…after reading this I have a story to add. I recently broke up with the love of my life. After months of contemplation I realized that I had become obsessed with her, and that I was responsible for the demise of the relationship. I had lost myself, and all the good with it, and the thing that she was most attracted to. I gave up on “the rules” and let my guard down. My new rule is that if girl makes me feel this way….get out immediately. The “sickness” is real.
Jake… I’ve found it is impossible to predict what some girls are doing. Why? Because most of the time they don’t really know what they are thinking. It is all emotions. And one minute they feel one way, and the next minute another. And when you try to logically figure out why they are acting a certain way… you’ll drive yourself crazy.
I realized this because my own actions are often illogical.. and I don’t know why i do what i do… So how can we ever try to figure out why someone else is doing what they’re doing. Best to have a solid game plan, and jsut stick with it.
i work with this girl and i’ve always played it ccool and almost ignored her coz shes a little bit crazy hoping she wouldn’t start liking me, coz i dont know how to talk to crazy girls, but she just came out of a relationship,almost got married! and she started hinting that she wanted to start something with me,so i was flattered and knew if i just started treating her nice she would lose interest but then i really started liking her and this is how ‘the sickness’ began. i knew i wouldnt be able to get involved with her but i started falling for her anyway,thinking of her when i was at home or out and about. so i thought what the hey ,maybe shes just horny. but when it came to seducing her, i didnt know what to say, cos shes so crazy,like YOU have to do all the work.so she was attracted to me but i didnt know how to handle her(to not be boring)to cut a long story short i blew the peak attraction stage,the next week she still wanted to hook up but i knew there was no point because im not a great talker(you have to be born one)shes seeing her ex again but says she doesnt love him.and now im obsessed with a girl i can never be with…………….that i have to see everyday…………………….great story eh?
i cry everyday realising that she is the perfect girl for me ..i know,……wussy
Hey, Bobby-
I can’t thank you enough for this, I have been doing your 31 day program and had my first sexual encounter ever last night. It was with a girl I have been really into the past few months, and I was on the verge of making the same mistake you did this morning (giving up the game and letting my emotions do the talking). I am saving this article to motivate me whenever I am in a moment of weakness, thank you so much!
Yeah its hit the most of us, and when they do respond we feel to weak to send a good enough response back, shame there’s no way out of the sickness/obsession
but this had really reassured me and when ever i feel like this i will look back on this story thanks bobby 
Wow so true. Love the story because it completely ends up like mine. I met a girl when I was working at Wal-Mart – a co. worker, and I was a vergin. We started talking, texting, and she was talking to 3 other guys where I was working. I didn’t think anything of it, and when they were all bragging about it, I didn’t believe them. I figured “This one’s different”. But guess what. I was wrong. I went to a party with her once, we got shitfaced, high, and went swimming in our underwear in a hotel room pool. My homie got the first kiss that night. A few days went by and she came over and had a party with us. Her, my bro, and I were making out hardcore all night. (Not bi-sexual way.. He kept getting in the way of her lips lol). So I thought we were cool and was waiting for the next party so we could make out more and get lap dances again. So the next party came around and there were 8 people there. We all got shitfaced worse then before. Long story short, I ended up passing out on the toilet. I wake up 2 hours later to my homeboy eating her pussy on the living room floor in front of everyone. I got so pissed I went over there and fucked her. The people walking into the party had to step over me and her fucking. I fell in love the next day. I was desperate just like what you were discribing. OBSESSION kicked in and I was following her around like a lost puppy everywhere she went. We fucked 8 times after that, and then a party (not at my house this time), someone stole my phone and we quit talking. A few weeks ago, we started talking again, and she told me she missed hanging out with me. My soft-self said “I missed you too”. Big mistake. After that I tried to buy her dinner, go out anytime, I was too available now we barely talk again…. How do I make her start talking to me first? I keep telling myself that I’m too good for her (honestly I am), but I just keep texting her hoping she will talk to me and come over and fuck. I still think about her, and she just wont text me. But I am starting to get it in my head that I am too good for any girl. Weird enough to say, but when I’m intoxicated, is when my game is best! I can get any girl while I’m drunk my words just flow out. Now I have girls hitting on me all the time, and I blow em off and they want me more!
You might not believe this, but the “sickness” is what inspired me to start studying game. I was 45, she was 28 and hot as hell! It was like a piece of Heaven had broken off and fallen into my lap. After she broke it off with me, I was heartbroken. Couldn’t even think about her without feeling like breaking down for several weeks. Once I realized she was in all likelihood gone for good, I came to realize that lightning could possibly strike twice. So I made a sort of New Year’s resolution, and started studying game. Now, seven months later, I’m starting to get good at this. I still see her around once in a while, and we have even dated a few times. But now I’m seeing her in a somewhat more subdued light. Having become a much less needy and insecure guy, I now see faults that I once ignored because she was so physically desirable. But, gotta say, I still love her very much. But I no longer feel that she is the only one for me, just that she is the only one that I feel (or felt) that way about so far. There have been others (I just haven’t wound up getting that into any of them yet), and I am confident there will be more to come. I find much comfort in this, even as I still miss this girl, I know I can and will find similar happiness with a girl (she still isn’t completely out of the picture, so it could still conceivably wind up being her). Thanks, Bobby, for your contribution (I have studied the works of many “dating coaches”, PUAs, etc.) to my new found peace of mind.
Oh, you were sick alright. And you sickness had a name: alcohol.
Sorry for what happened, though; glad you bounced back.
Jaja Bobby… been there.
You know, the funny thing is no matter how good we think we are at this game, there is always some girl out there who is much much better, and some women are truly pro at this and play with our emotions like a child’s play.
I actually had a girl who I swear she must had read that chick’s book “the rules” (game for girls) or something similar, because I was on top, I flirted, connected with her, escalated, and teased her to a point SHE begged me to to f**k her and we did it a couple times, but like a true professional, she flaked me all the way into “the sickness” (she even admitted to me she liked me a lot and that she did that on purpose, tell me Bobby, what’s that skill level???)
After getting out of that I was like somebody who just saw a ghost, rambling around just repeating in my head like a broken disc the learned lessons. Here’s a couple:
1. Emotions are always stronger, no matter how good you think you are, no matter how cool you try to act. If you get emotional, you lose.
2. If you’re “sick”, all tactics and strategies to get her to chase you backfire. ALWAYS.
3. Push/Pull is the most powerful force in the universe.
(Tip: I’ve got a friend who sometimes just deletes the girl’s phone number from his cell when she texts something, that way he has no way to respond her until she calls, usually to know why he hasn’t responded back,
that’s emotion management!)
wow i read this a little to late but what a story!!!
i can see how frustrated you were man
but hey at least you Fought the guy
Bad ASS BOBBY RIO!!!!
Hey man,
Solid story. Good to hear that chapter is closed for you.
I got infected, I still haven’t gotten it out of my system lol, even though I’m still in “getting to know this girl” stage. Bobby, I know we all got to go after what we want sometimes, but would you say going after that person, assuming you think you have the emotional control you need to deal with the sickness? ..or just move on and to something you know you’ll feel more in control.
I think one of the main reason for studying “game” is precisely to being ready for something like this. Do you think one could ever be prepared enough?
A response will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks Bobby. Keep rockin man’
Damn dude, your stories are awesome lol…
How long did it took for you to become actually ”good” with women?