How to Display “Value” to Women

So I’m going to start using this blog to answer a lot of the questions that I’m being asked.  I’m going to choose questions that are being asked a lot.  If you have any questions you want answered, just leave them in the comment section below.

Hi Bobby,

I guess I do have a question for you, what do we have to offer women?

This may come off as having a low self esteem,but I’m not rich or famous, I have a job and a car. The only thing bad is I live at home due to the economy sucking so bad! I just have a hard time seeing what a women would want to do with me.

G.

Hey G.,

You know you’re actually the third person today that has written a similiar question…

And I can totally relate to it.. because I’ve been at points in my life where i felt that i couldn’t compete with guys who had more money, status,looks than me…

Now before I give you my answer…

I did a training class for an upcoming mentorship lesson with Kezia, a really hot woman who teaches pickup…

And I asked her this exact question

“For a beautiful woman like you and your friends… how important is status”

You’ll get the full lesson soon… but here is a summary of what she said.

1.  Status is important to women….

2.  If you don’t have status and you’re UNAPOLOGETIC about it- thatis equally attractive  (meaning you don’t seemed fazed by it- and aren’t trying to conceal it and aren’t insecure about it)

3.  She said when she was in her most “status chasing” phase a few years back- chasing soccer players in England… she actually fell for a guy at the bar who had no status.. but actually made her laugh and see how ridiculous she was for only going for soccer player…

So that is her opinion…

My opinion is this…

1.  A woman does not know your status level when talking to you.

2.  She looks for clues as to what kind of status you have.

3.  If you’re comfortable bantering with her, flirting, and getting sexual with her….   SHE WILL ASSUME YOU HAVE HIGH STATUS- because usually only high status men hit on her in this way..

>>>If you don’t know how to flirt and banter with her in an exciting and attractive way I suggest going through my Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy program

4.  Once a woman is attracted to you… status means a lot less.  So even if she later finds out you live at home or are going through a rough point- she’ll still be attracted.

5.  Remember, women live in a “boredom trance” and crave emotionalimpact in their lives… a woman would choose this impact over status any day of the week.

The main reason women crave status in the first place is because they believe it will lead to more excitement in her life…

Provide her with the excitement- she’ll forget about status.

6.  Trust me, my girlfriend is completley status obsessed. Yet, When I met her I was 28 years old living with 4 roommates in a dirty house.  And i was barely working and could hardly afford to take her anywhere…

And I can name at least 5 guys i know personally who have pulled some of the hottest women ive seen- and are broke as a joke.

7.  The living at home thing is rough for sure… I understand that.  And you may lose a few girls for that reason from time to time…

Im going to give you some advice I got from Roosh V (who was 29 and living at home-banging chicks)

Avoid telling a woman you live at home until you’ve already gone out with her a few days and created a good attraction…

Hope that helps…

If you have any more specific questions let me know…

Bobby

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