Does She Like You? Or Is She Just Being Friendly?
I constantly get a ton of questions asking how to tell if a girl likes you.
A lot of dating advice gurus out there advise looking for indicators of interest (IOIs) that a girl is attracted to you. While indicator’s of interest can be helpful in judging a woman’s interest level… I prefer to actively “test” her attraction levels instead of passively waiting for signs she likes me.
These two videos detail my two favorite “attraction tests”
The first video below, explains an active “attraction test” I like to use when I’ve developed some rapport with a woman and I want to tell if she likes me… or is at least comfortable around me.
“The Hi-Five Test”
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This next video details a verbal “attraction test” I use to get a woman’s reaction to something I say to judge her interest level. This is a great way to tell if a girl likes you.
“My Wife and Kids”
So, these are my two favorite ways on how to tell if a girl if a girl likes you. If you have any other “tests” you use to tell know if a girl like you or is attracted to you… leave a comment below.
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Great ideas Bobby!
The wife and kids thing is brilliant.
Another thing I do.. and I think I learned this from you… is ask a girl if she wants a sip of my drink… normally, if the girl feels comfortable with you.. she’ll take a sip. This only really works if you’re drinking something other than beer… and works best if you’re drinking an exotic drink
I’ve used the handshake test, and agree it works pretty good. How can I tell if a girl is ready to be kissed… is that “kiss test” i always read about legit.
Does anybody have any suggestions? I always feel like I blow it.
I just found you and added your blog to bookmarks. These are the exact types of tips I’ve been looking for… simple things that help me understand women more…
wish i had more to offer in advice. But i’m new to this, and for now I’ll just learn from you
My wife really liked your tips Bobby. Haha, nice couple of tips you got here.
great post as usual!
“My wife and kids…” Great stuff, goes straight to the matter ; I’ll def try that !
Keep up the good work! Funny thing is that I find myself using many of these same tips when I’m chating up women.
Your High 5 test is very similar to Lance Mason’s hand test. If he wants to hold her hand without anyone noticing it he will simply pull their hands behind him while standing next to her and talking to everyone else. Then, he can play with her fingers and have a “conversation” with her and no one knows about it!
originally from Mystery the old casanova:
1.shake hands, don’t let go, instead do this finger-wrestling-stuff
if she trys really to wrestle your thunb down chances are good she’s into you
2.offer her both hands and touch her lightly with hands in hands
move your hands up and down, back and forward while talking to her
if she follows: gues what it’s good news
but don’t forget to be a cheeky arsehole and push her hands away while still talking to her, no matter if she’s into you or not
@phil: if you kiss her in public, you ruin your chances to take her home, if you took her home, give her 10min to feel save(nice unsexy music) offer a drink, take the drink out of her hands and just kiss her I prefer to kiss her the corner of her mouth first
This works if both of you are sitting down and close to each other. Take her hand, place her hand on your knee and let go. If she removes it quickly then she is either not comfortable yet, not interested, or really shy. But, if she leaves her hand there and even starts to rub your knee being “frisky”, then it’s a good IOI.
One last test is the chapstick test.
Simple- ask if she has any chapstick. if she gives her chapstick to you, you’re in!
Great Ideas Bobby, my version of “my wife and kids” is to say “my boyfriend and I” you should see the confusion on their faces…
haha that’s great! I’m gonna try that one next time
My favourite kiss test is the “how do u rate yourself as a kisser?”
They will say anything from 9 out of 10 – 10/10 – 11/10 – 20/10 etc
Then i act all childlike and say ohh thats amazing!! you see im only a 3 out of 10.. she will say are u kidding? i can do 2 things
1) lets find out and kiss her
2) reply with you have to show me a 10/10 kiss (or whatever she rate herself with)!
its 100% my favourite kiss techinque (and that was my biggest problem with women) even if you dont get the kiss there and then, you can always use that info later on (but dont leave it too late!!) like 15-20 mins
**KISS TEST**
Guys, I can imagine how a lot of you are probably very nervous whilst on that first date, but the best way you can go into that first date is to actually forget that this is a first date.
Imagine this beautiful, charming, intelligent woman sitting in front of you and your mumbling and stumbling and struggling to get your words out.
Now imagine her with a green midget on her shoulder and everything she is saying the little green midget is pointing and laughing without her knowing.
This first date does not seem like to much of a big deal now. Does it?
And a tip: If you do start waffling, don’t worry, don’t get phased keep waffling in a “I am finding this waffling funny” kind of way.
Then acknowledge that you are waffling then with a cheeky grin ask the woman if she can think of any way that she can stop this waffling….. then boom inevitably she will either put her hand over your mouth (Jokingly) or go in for the kiss.
I’m a human /alien hybrid meaning i’m only half human half alien so I don’t fully understand human stuff like dating it doesn’t work well for me as I am a half alien I act different to a full human but I’ll try your ideas thanks oh and when i return to save the earth I’ll remember you
This guy is amazing, I have been reading and following him for a while. Your tips are right on Q.
Wow that is so lame- hi five? I thought that went out of style along with disco in the 80′s–
Let me tell you little weenies out there that are afraid of the big bad girls…. don’t be scared! Think of all the millions of girls doing porn on the net– girls at the bank, or in the clubs or the store are exactly the same as them..they are them!
My secret of success, if you call boning at least 600 girls success is.. remember that movie JOE KIDD with Clint Eastwood? And how he picks up that babe in the hotel room?…
Be Joe Kidd…that’s what women want to see & feel- it’s primal
and it’s fast – no dickin around talking – you want her twat dripping wet – and the better looking she is the easier it is to pick her up- hot girls like to be naked.
Sorry but I cannot believe there are some many men out there having such problems…it is just crazy. What are you guys doing?
It is so easy to meet girls…just stop thinking about all the information before you talk to a women. You are trying to learn information that is not you! STOP. Talk to a women like you would meet a new friend at first. It is really easy keep it simple. STOP making it hard work. Just talk to them and at some point trying to turn it into more. GO AND TALK TO THEM…JUST THINK YOU ARE TALKING TO A SISTER AT FIRST AS IF YOU’VE KNOW THEM FOR YEARS.
this girl who rides my bus sat next to me and I like her and she started giggling with her friend before she came up to me and we had a long conversation but I don’t know if she likes me or not
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