Questions to Ask on a First Date
There is no deeper hole you can dig yourself in with a girl quite like having a terrible first date with her. In fact, if you have a bad first date, there’s pretty much no chance she’s going to agree to going on a second date with her. It’s that old saying: “You only have one chance to make a first impression.”
The key to a first date is knowing the best first date questions to ask her. And the key to knowing what first date questions to ask her, is to keep this in mind:
This is not a job interview!
Interviews at jobs just care about your past experience, where you went to school, what your GPA was, etc. In other words, facts. But when you’re on a first date with a girl, you shouldn’t be asking about these facts. Instead, focus on asking her about her emotions.
It’s a subtle, yet extremely important, distinction.
For example, instead of asking her where she went to school, ask her what her worst first date experience was. This kind of question is so much more interesting in that it will give you the chance to tell a terrible first date story of your own, which will allow the two of you to bond. You’re not going to be able to bond over what school she went to. (Unless you happen to have gone to the same school. But even then, the bonding is superficial.)
A few other examples of good first date questions:
- What was the most adventurous thing you’ve done?
- What is your favorite city in the world?
- What is your biggest weakness?
Keeping her talking about emotions will also make her much more receptive to flirting. And, in turn, make her much more receptive to a first date kiss. (My advice about trying to get a first date kiss: Do it!)
And flirting with her on the first date is so important that I made a video about it:
How to Flirt on a First Date
Make no mistake about it. The normal information about where she grew up, where she went to school, etc. will come out eventually. That’s just the nature of this kind of information. If you go out with her long enough, you’ll know all about her. This is the kind of things that will come out in a second or third date.
But if you don’t focus on getting to know more about her emotions, you’re never going to get that second date.
For more conversation skills building, check out Make Small Talk Sexy: Conversation Escalation