If She Looks Looks at You… Does She Like You?

Wanted to address something real quick.

And you might not like it.

But it must be said.

Cuz everyday I get emails that go something like this:

“There is this girl in my Math class {serving me coffee at Starbucks, that I pass in the hall, that I see around around campus, or that I work with…}

“And we make eye contact… And I’m pretty sure that she likes me.
How should I ask her out?”

I hate to break it to you…

But…

Eye contact does not equal attraction.

At best it equals interest.

And if you don’t turn that interest into attraction…

…You got NOTHING.

Guys think you can skip over the attraction phase… but unless you
look like Brad Pitt…

You can’t.

So what do you do?

Before you decide to go for hernumber, confess your feelings to
her, or ask her on a date…

Create a spark of ATTRACTION by FLIRTING with her…

How do you do that?

The best and easiest way to flirt with a girl is to tease her about
something…

…So that girl in class

Jokingly call her a “teacher’s pet” if she raises her hand too much…

…Or a brown noser when she gets the answer right….

That girl walking hurridley past you in the halls…

Tell her that she walks around like she’s on a top secret misson…

That girl serving you your coffee…

Next time you go to pay for your Latte as she reaches for you money… pull it away…

Then go to hand it to her again… when she reaches for it… pull it away again before giving it to her…

That’s creating a little tension…

A little flirtation.

When you “tease” a woman… she knows the deal.. she knows you’re flirting…

(…as long as you’re doin it right.)

And flirting is the first step toward creating attraction…

Once you created a spark of attraction,then you can go for the phone number,or see if she wants to hang out

But you CAN’T SKIP that part.

You have trouble doin this?

Don’t know what to tease a girl about?

Don’t worry.

I got something for you.

And its free.

It’s called the Teasing and Banter
cheat Sheet.

http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/cheat

There’s lines it in that you can use in a dozen differnet situations.

And they work.

Grab it here.

http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/cheat

And stop worrying ‘is she looking at me’ and just make it happen.

Bobby

P.S. If you want a complete education on sparking attraction in a girl, through the use of 5 tools that ALWAYS help create attraction…

Check out Amplify the Attraction

http://www.amplifytheattraction.com

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Tips for Flirting with Girls

If you want to get girls then it is essential that you know how to flirt with girls.  Flirting is the currency of a seduction.

Check Out Amplify the Attraction

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Creating the Lifestyle

Recently I did an interview with Tony Ryan, of Next Level Lifestyles.  Tony interviewed me about pickup, travel, and building my business.

It was a fun interview. I think you’ll find some useful tips in here about lifestyle design, having better conversations with women, and the story behind TSB Magazine.

Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy

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How to Keep a Girl Interested in You

It’s about time I address this in an article..

(This is an email you’re going to want to save for future use)

Every day I get dozens of emails from guys around the world wondering why some girl suddenly lost interest in them.
Once I get the details out of them it becomes crystal clear.

They gave their hand away way too soon.

Have you ever had a girl who was once hot for you get cold and distant within a couple weeks? If I had to guess why, I would say that you got too comfortable too quickly, and stopped PLAYING THE GAME.

I know I know.. we all hate ‘the game.’

But you have to play it.

Why?

Because women love going after a guy who is a challenge.

They love it.

They love not knowing what the deal is. Sure, they say they hate it. But they will keep chasing that feeling.

And when you don’t give them “the chase” they usually find another guy who isn’t so hard to figure out.

So how to do you stay a challenge?

For some of us its easy… If you’ve got a reputation around your social circle as a “player”, or are seen as having really high status by the girl, you don’t have the play ‘the game’ as hard.

THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU DON’T HAVE TO PLAY IT.

Trust me, I made that mistake. Sometimes I’ve even made the mistake of thinking I have to show a girl MORE interest because she thinks I’m a player and I need to prove I’m not.

Big Mistake.

The whole reason the girl liked you in the first place was because of your ‘player like’ qualities. Don’t hide them, and don’t give in to the temptation to ‘drop the games.’

Here are the three biggest signs you are about to FUCK UP.

1. You start thinking “I don’t want to play games with this chick. I like her. Why can’t I just let her know.”

2. You think “This girl is different, I don’t have to play games with her.”

3. You think “She definitely likes me. We’re past the point I need to play games.”

The minute any of those thoughts creep into your mind, re-read this email. And DO NOT convince yourself that she is different.

SHE IS NOT DIFFERENT.

She wants to chase you. She wants a challenge. She wants a guy she can not completely figure out.

How to be a challege

A lot guys think that when I say you can’t express interest this means you can’t let a girl know you are attracted to her.

WRONG.

You HAVE to let her know you are attracted to her. To do this you need to know how to talk to women.

Express your sexual intent and attraction all you want.

That is perfectly fine.

But, do no let her know you want more than that. (for at least the first 3 or 4 months)

SHE CAN NOT KNOW YOU WANT HER AS A GIRLFRIEND.

You have to be stone cold impossible to read.

Every time she leaves you she should be wondering if she will ever see you again. She should be wondering how much you like her. She should be wondering if you’re seeing other girls.

Let her wonder.

That is the art of the chase. The more time she sits around wondering what you’re doing… the more she begins to convince herself she is in love with you.

As David D once said “Give her the gift of missing you.”

The second part of keeping the attraction going is being able to continually flip her attraction switches during your time hanging out with her.

I created an entire course on “Flipping her Attraction Switches

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Pandora’s Box 3 Questions That Turn Her On

3 Questions that Turn Her OnWarning:  This email contains some “deeper level” ideas.  This post was inspired after going through Vin Dicarlo’s Pandora’s Box program.

I am going to give you a “short cut” for reading a woman’s mind, and influencing her decisions.

And it all starts with:

“Values”

When you understand someone’s “core values” you can pretty much predict the decisions they will make throughout their life.

You can also easily influence those decisions pretty quickly.

Let’s take ME for example…

Awhile back, through a process of narrowing down and eliminating, I discovered that my core value in life is “freedom.”

And without me having known it… unconsciously EVERY decision throughout my life has been influenced by that “core value.”

Values Determine Life Decisions

… I chose a career in writing because it allowed me the freedom to live where I choose

… I chose to study “pickup” because it allowed me the freedom of choice when it comes to who I date

… I chose all of my girlfriends based on how much perceived “freedom” they would allow me

My “core value” also dictates what turns me on…

…I’m turned on by random experiences and spontaneity

…I’m turned on by women who represent a feeling of ‘anything’s possible’

…I’m turned on by people that I see as having some power to move me closer towards freedom

Not only that, but based on my core value of “freedom” certain people, places, and things are IMMEDIATELY disqualified.

For instance, I would never seriously consider dating a girl who was controlling or who was in a rush to start a family.  I would never make a purchase that saddled me with dept.  And I wouldn’t take a job that didn’t give me the opportunity to move freely around the world…

But here is one MAJOR  MISTAKE made over the years…

I’ve assumed that everyone shares the same “core value” as me…

Which is why I could never understand it when my friend Sal married a girl who keeps him on a short leash.

I never understood how friends of mine do the daily 9-5 grind in an office job.

Nor have I understood how people I know don’t have a constant desire to educate themselves and understand the world better.

But now I understand it crystal clear:  Everyone has a different “core value.”

Everyone Has Different “Core Values”

The reason my friend Sal chose to marry his controlling girlfriend, work as a middle school math teacher, and purchase a house fifteen minutes away from the town he grew up in is because his core value is FAMILY.

I have another friend Daryl whose core value is ACHIEVEMENT.  Every life decision he makes somehow relates to his desire to achieve success.

…When you begin to recognize this about people it is like you are given a glimpse inside their brain, and now possess the ability to influence their decisions by appealing to their “core value.”

Having known this about “core values” for some time… I was immediately intrigued by the idea of Pandora’s Box Mind Reading System.

The premise of the program is women will respond to different types of “seduction” based on which personality type they are.

As I went through Pandora’s Box what I realized was that ultimately what the system teaches is how to quickly identify the “Core values” of the women you’re talking to.

You see, I can tell you my friends or my girlfriends “core value” because I’ve spent enough time with them to know a long history of past decisions they’ve made.

However, when you are first meeting a woman you don’t have all of this same information to use to identify her.

This is where Pandora’s Box comes into play.

Vin Dicarlo’s Pandora’s Box

Vin Dicarlo basically figured out that there are 3 MAIN conflicts of the female mind.  And understanding her position on these three conflicts will basically allow you to understand her “Core value” which in turn, allows you to ‘read her mind’ and turn her on.

Dicarlo actually expands upon this idea of “core value” by identifying different personality traits that each woman has based on her position on the “three conflicts of the female mind.”

Seems complex?

It really isn’t.

It is very similar to the self analysis I did awhile back to determine that my “core value” was freedom.  I basically used a process of elimination that allowed me to identify ‘freedom’ as my core value.

Vin never uses the word “core value.”  He instead refers to it as the Conflicts of the Female Mind.

He gives you a bunch of “innocent” questions you can ask to figure out her stance on these three conflicts of the human mind.

Pandora’s takes it a step further though.

What he does then is he identifies all of the common character and personality traits of women who share the same “core position” on these three conflicts of the female mind.

…And then he gives you a Strategy Guide for seducing each type.

==> This video explains more about Pandora’s Box

BRILLIANT.

If you don’t think its possible than you obliviously don’t understand the power our ‘core values’ have over us and the decisions we make, and what ultimately ‘turns us on.’

Here are some of the other things you’ll learn in Pandora’s Box:

  1. Mind-Read her type (This takes 60 seconds)
  2. Remember 3 things about her (Never more than 3 things. Often less!)
  3. Use a sniper-targeted strategy (Not a “shotgun” method that doesn’t work)
  4. A complete Strategy Guide for each of the 8 “types”

Pandora’s Box is broken down into 12 PDFs and 11 videos.  This way Vin takes the time in each video to explain this idea of “the 3 conflicts of the female mind.”

But then dedicates an entire PDF and series of videos to walking you through a strategy guide for seducing each type once you’ve identified them.

Here is the thing about Pandora’s Box…

I LOVE psychology.  I LOVE understanding why people act the way they do.  I LOVE being able to connect with a woman on a deeper level…

So for me…  this program was like CRACK.

This program is not everyone.  You need to have that same love of psychology and desire to understand the way women think….

But if you put the time in to learn this…

Not only will it help you seduce more women throughout your life… It will help you have better relationships with girlfriends or wives.

Watch this video which explains Pandora’s Box much better than I possible can in this email.

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