The Desire System, and Guest Article by Dr. David Tan.

Hey man,

My friend Dr. David wrote a guest article for you today, where he’ll reveal the #1 mistake that’s preventing you from getting laid.

Trust me… you’re probably doing it. And it’s most likely cost you AT LEAST one girl before. So let’s make sure it doesn’t happen again, OK?

[Don’t Miss Dr. David’s free video demonstration here]

Enter Dr. David…

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If you’re reading this, you’re probably not happy with your sex life.

I mean, maybe it’s not AWFUL, but…

You’re either not getting laid as much as you’d like, or you’re not getting laid by the kinds of girls you’re REALLY attracted to.

Do you know why that is?

Well, if you’ve read any sort of men’s dating advice, chances are you’ve been lied to over and over again.

These so-called “gurus” try and make you believe you need to work on your “attraction game” or come up with better “pick up lines”.

Sure, you can focus on that stuff if you want. And MAYBE your skills with women will improve, little-by-little.

But here’s the TRUTH of the matter…

If a woman doesn’t want to sleep with you, the reason is simple:

It’s because you aren’t turning her on.

That’s it.

She just isn’t horny around you.

If she’s not turned on, NOTHING you say will make a difference. She just won’t be interested.

However, if you know how to turn a woman on (and it’s MUCH easier than you think)…

It doesn’t matter what you do. NOTHING you say will make a difference. She’s already yours.

All you have to do is not screw up epically.

So, what works to turn a woman on?

Well, first let’s talk about what DOESN’T:

Good looks, being fit, being rich…

What??? Dr. David, you’re joking right?

OK sure, that stuff can help if you know what you’re doing. But 90% of the time, it actually turns a woman off.

Here’s why:

It leads to the single most unattractive, repulsive behavior you can do to a woman:

…BRAGGING.

It doesn’t matter if you’re outright bragging to her about your car…

Or if you’re subtly hinting at the fact you have dated beautiful woman in the past.

She’ll pick up on it, and it will turn her off.

You see, when you brag to a woman, she instantly senses that you’re trying to “prove yourself” to her.

And a woman’s “dream man” (and “dream lay”) is a man with NOTHING to prove.

In fact, it’s a man who SHE has to prove HERSELF to.

Which means, if you cut out all “prove yourself” behavior around woman…

And replace it with behavior that compels HER to “prove herself” to YOU…

You’re already 90% of the way there.

And man, I struggled with this for years. Even when I wasn’t overtly bragging to a woman, I was trying to subtly “win her over” using lame pickup lines and techniques.

She can smell that crap a mile away. Unless she’s truly desperate, you’re toast.

So, what REALLY turns her on?

Well, maybe I’ll write another guest post soon outlining the best ways to turn a woman on very soon 🙂

But in the meantime, here’s a simple formula:

STEP ONE: Eliminate All Behavior Where You’re Trying To “Prove Yourself”

Seriously… I realize this spits in the face of what most “experts” teach.

But I want you to eliminate ALL behavior where you’re trying to win a girl over.

No stories about cool stuff you did, unless she asks.

No bragging about your money, car, job, heck… even your dog.

NOTHING where you’re even subtly trying to “brag”.

Why is this so damn important?

Well, the top 1% of men who are ridiculously attractive to women NEVER brag.

They don’t have anything to prove. So they let women find out about all the great stuff going on in their lives on their own. They make them WORK for it.

You see the difference?

When a woman senses you are one of these men, her interest piques. Her body starts getting hot for you, and she doesn’t even know why.

And look: even if you have to “trick her” into thinking you’re one of these guys, like I’m going to teach you… once she starts getting turned on, she can’t control herself.

SHE’LL be the one seducing YOU.

So, after you’ve got the “no bragging” rule down…

STEP TWO: Transfer Your Sexual State To Her

This involves an incredibly simple but deadly effective technique. It’s easier to demonstrate on video, so I put together this live demo for you:

[Don’t Miss Dr. David’s free video demonstration here]

Basically, it involves “transferring” your sexual attraction and horniness onto her.

It’s some seriously jedi stuff. But ANY guy can do it with extreme effectiveness, tonight.

You see, a Harvard Psychologist recently discovered that you can “transfer” emotions like horniness… desire… and even LOVE to a woman.

You simply have to feel the emotion you want to trigger in her, do a quick trick, and she’ll feel the emotion back. It’s like a mirror.

Here’s how to do it:

[Don’t Miss Dr. David’s free video demonstration here]

This works due to the powerful science of “emotional contagion”.

You can use it to make a woman feel happy, make her feel like she wants to see you again, make her feel a deep emotional bond with you… quite literally anything.

And to my knowledge, I’m the first person to use this new discovery to help men get women 🙂

But shucks man, I’ve gotta run.

Make sure you check out this short presentation. In it, I’ll show you my step-by-step system for turning a woman on… on command.

I spent years of research on this, and I’m damn proud of it:

[Don’t Miss Dr. David’s free video demonstration here]

Cheers,

David Tan, phD

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Man displaying how to flirtHey, Bobby here.

You see hot girls everyday, buy it’s rare to find a girl who has the “complete package.”

You know what I’m talking about: those girls who are hot and sexy, but also have the kind of exciting and fun personality that makes you want to spend time with them (outside of the bedroom).

This is the type of girl that guys usually get infatuated with. They think a “complete package girl” is so rare and special that they will do almost ANYTHING to try and please her.

Once they get her interested, a lot of guys start stressing about how to keep her interested…and it ends up being no fun at all.

How would you like to know how to get a girl obsessed with you?

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What are you going to do if you meet a girl like this TODAY?

This video tells you how to do it right from the beginning.
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Confession: I have been one of those do-anything guys. A long time ago, before I started writing about dating, I met one particularly stunning girl.

She had this kind of exotic ethnic mix that made her totally hot in a way that was unlike any other girl I’d met before. But she also had a sharp sense of humor and a cool, easy-going personality that was just as much of a turn-on as her looks.

Lots of guys liked her – girls like that always have a kind of following.

I had just started working and she was still in school, so I could afford to take her out to nicer places than her college guy friends could.

This made me kinda confident for the first few weeks. It seemed like she was into me a little bit, and I got more attracted to her every time I saw her.

But it felt too casual to me, and I’d still see her hanging out with her other guy friends, some of who were very aggressive with their flirting.

Her casual attitude towards me and the stiff competition made me stressed out. I tried to buy more affection from her with all kinds of shit: gold earrings, an iPhone, expensive chocolate.

But it didn’t work – She still paid attention to me, but it was obvious that I liked her way more than she liked me.

Eventually, I started hearing excuses about why she couldn’t meet up with me, and she wouldn’t return my calls until days later, if at all.

She finally broke it off with me in a text message. The text said something about how we had just been “casual” but now she had found someone “serious” that she really connected with.

I spent the next week thinking about what I could have done differently…I thought of a hundred things. I know you’ve probably been there too, because most guys have.

The more you like a girl, the more crazy stuff you are willing to do (and to buy) to try and earn affection from her. What you are actually doing, though, is creating a dynamic that is never going to work out for you.

You are doing ALL the chasing and she has ALL the power to decide where the relationship goes (or doesn’t go).

Guys naturally want to force the issue by doing more and more stuff for a girl…but you have to break this habit.

You can’t change this dynamic unless you break with “tradition.”

This video has very specific ideas about how to do that. Watch it, then tune in for the next email, because I am going into more specifics about how to change this dynamic.

Do it right and not only will you get to make the decisions, she will actually be the one who is chasing you…you can just sit back and let it happen.

Look, I think this is important stuff to know.

When I look back at my past, I’m not worried about not sleeping with many girls in high school or college.

But I still do regret some of the obvious mistakes I made with those cool girls that I was really into.

That’s why I personally think its so important to understand how you can build lasting attraction with the kind of girl that you really want to spend time with.

So watch the video and learn what you need to do.

Make it happen!

Bobby

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The #1 reason holding you back from approaching more women is NOT fear.

It’s NOT “approach anxiety”

It’s NOT lack of a great opening line.

Nope.

The #1 thing preventing your from approaching women is one simple deadly phrase we say to ourselves…

“I’ll do it tomorrow.”

Yep.

PROCRASTINATION is what’s really holding you back from approaching more women.

It’s easier for you to say “Next time I’ll approach her” . Then it is to deal with the momentary discomfort of breaking the
ice with a stranger… (Yes, that’s all it is momentary discomfort)

So if you’re not really that afraid to start a conversation with a woman… then why do you procrastinate?

Because its HARD. (Or I should say, because we imagine it will be difficult or uncomfortable)

Yes.

We hate doing anything that is hard.

We hate going to the gym.

We hate taking tests.

We hate cleaning a messy room.

We hate doing hard things.

And since we imagine that approaching a woman we don’t really know will be hard we come up with a million reasons not to do it.

So the question becomes how do we overcome this?

And the answer is A LOT simpler than you think.

Here goes… Make it easier on yourself.

Yep.

In fact, make it so easy on yourself that you can’t help but get results.

Here’s a video I created explaining exactly how to make so easy you you’ll be flooded with phone numbers.

Procrastination kills more dreams and desires than anything else in life…

If you let it get the best of you, you’ll wake up in 30 years regretting EVERYTHING.

Trust me, I used to be the king of “I’ll do it tomorrow”…

… And yea, don’t put off watching this video till tomorrow either 🙂

Watch it now  <– and break free of the chains of procrastination

Make it happen!

Bobby

P.S.  In this video I explain the concept of “playing the game on the easy level” and that’s THE ONLY way you’ll actually get out
there and approach

http://www.motivatedtoapproach.com/special/1-2

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I want to talk more about how to recognize girl’s signals.

But, more important, about what to do when you see these signals.

Trust me, if you don’t have much confidence when it comes to girls, this can be a game-changer for you.

I’ll explain more in a second.

First, I want remind you about the video that my good friend Craig made about this stuff.

I linked to it in the last email, but I want to do it again now because he made it especially for my readers (that’s you).

So if you haven’t seen it, watch it here.

From the last email, you already know that it is possible to learn how to see if a girl is attracted to you before you even go
up to her.

And now I wanna tell you that just knowing this simple thing can really help your inner game.

Here’s the deal: most guys think that they have to be charming or funny or say certain things when they first come up to a girl.

They put so much pressure on themselves to perform…to kind of “convince” the girl to like them.

When you are under stress like that, it’s easy to go blank when you are trying to think of what to say or to get frustrated and
nervous when things don’t go exactly as you expected.

But…

If you see the signs and you already know that the girl is interested in you, you can change your mindset.

You can skip all the stuff where you are trying to make her attracted to you because you know that she ALREADY IS ATTRACTED.

You’ve read a lot of my stuff by now, so you know that I think inner game is super important when it comes to getting girls.

And learning to see these signs is one of the best natural ways to get confidence and improve your inner game.

It’s amazing how much learning the signals that girls give off can improve a guy’s confidence…right away.

They just never knew that girls were attracted to them before.

See what I mean? – This can be a game changer for a lot of guys.

OK, now I wanna give you a really clear example of what one of these signals is.

The first and most obvious thing that most guys miss is how close a girl is standing (or sitting) to them.

This is a “tell” that girls give both before you’ve said anything to them or after you’ve already started talking.

She might be really close or maybe just kinda next to you at the bar or whatever.

The important thing to ask yourself is “does she have a reason to be there?”

See, a girl will often make herself “available” to a guy by getting closer to him than she needs to be.

So, if she is close and she doesn’t have a reason to be that close, it’s game on.

Think back: I bet you’re a little bit pissed at yourself right now because you’ve missed this signal before…a lot.

OK, it’s a really simple signal, but it makes my point.

There are tons of other signs that I don’t have time to get to here, but I’m gonna show you a presentation that goes more in
depth and gives you more signals to look out for.

You can watch this presentation here (pay attention to it!)

And finally, I want to tell you about one trick to use if you are not seeing any clear signals from a girl.

I tell this to a lot of my students.

First, think of a joke or something that is meant to be funny.

But make sure that it is really not that funny.

But here’s what to look for: if the girl still laughs at the joke, even though it is not really funny, then you are basically
in with her.

This is a super obvious sign that she wants you to know that she likes you – she’s showing you that she appreciates what you have
to say even though it was kinda lame.

Again, I’m only scratching the surface here.

There are tons of signs to learn.

And you gotta learn them because you are missing so many chancesevery day if you don’t.

So watch that presentation!

You’ll get more ideas about things to look for the next time that you are out.

There is just one rule to all this: DON’T MISS THE SIGNS

Make it happen!

Bobby

P.S. So, there is one more thing I want to tell you about this.

Girls use signs as a kind of language.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could talk back to them in their “language?”

You can…and they love it when you do.

http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/decode

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Hey,

So I’ve got another kick ass guest article for you today. This one is from my friends Chris. I sent a couple guest
posts from him a couple months ago, and guys LOVED his advice….

So I had him write two more (the other one will come later this week)

btw- we recorded this video, I think you’ll like it.

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Hey guys, it’s Chris “Sixty”…

I talk a lot about “tension” being the key to attracting women, but really what is sexual tension?

Is it like that show Friends where Ross and Rachel secretly like each other but never hookup

Oh hell NO man…

I’m talking about SEXUAL TENSION … as in SEX

Real sexual tension is when you want to sleep with a woman so bad that she KNOWS it (but without having to tell her)

When you’re so turned on she can actually FEEL your sexual desire. And as that tension grows she gets more and more aroused… until she absolutely must have you!

Now once you get a girl to this point all you have to do is avoid the 3 big screw-ups (failing her tests, being needy and waiting too
long to make a move) and you can pretty much guarantee you end up in bed with her tonight.

Sound too easy?

Well there’s still one deadly mistake that holds guys back and cripples their chances of ever seeing her naked.

And it’s probably going to come as a TOTAL SHOCK

You ready for this?

Your biggest problem with women is that you don’t really want to sleep with them!

Well, I mean you do, but it’s not your first goal.

Let me explain…

You see, as guys we have two core needs. The need for sex and the need for affection. And these 2 needs are constantly battling each other to be at the forefront of our minds.

For example, have you ever checked out a girl from a distance and started imaging what she might look like naked. You may have even turned to your buddy and proclaimed “I would bang her so hard bro”.

Yeah, from 50 feet away you were operating from your desire for sex.

But what happens when you actually go talk to her. All of a sudden your talking about puppy dogs and ice cream. You avoid her eyes, stand too far away and make that “I’m just happy to be talking to you face”.

(and you don’t dare sneak a peek at her “ass” because you’re scared to get caught checking her out)

Yep, you are now operating from your NEED for affection. And the worst part is she can actually feel that neediness. (this is a HUGE turnoff for women when done too early in a relationship)

Look there’s nothing wrong with wanting female affection (that’s what’s so awesome about girls) but if you start acting like you really just need a hug before you’ve even kissed her…it’s not going to go well

Okay, nod your head if you’ve ever had this happen…

It’s late, you realize it’s just you at your place and you start to get in the mood. You might surf internet porn or if your “old school” you pop a tape into your VCR.

Notice how when we’re relaxed and have no worries we automatically divert back to Need #1… which is our desire for sex. Nice!

But what happens when you go out to a social gathering like a party, bar or club? And you start to notice all of the better looking guys and groups of unimpressed girls checking their phones.

Yep, you start to feel self-conscious.

All of a sudden you’re trying to impress people you shouldn’t care less about. You try to be funny, interesting and “cool” hoping to make women like you.

(ever notice how most of these silly pickup artist tactics all seem geared to make women like you instead of making them HORNY for you)

Bottom line, your need for VALIDATION has taken over your brain again. Sex is no longer your main goal. And let’s face it, your local bar is not the most “boner friendly” environment.

So when you go out to meet women (and especially when you’re talking to one), you can bet your need for validation and affection is going to win out over your need for sex.

And that means there will be NO sexual tension…

(and it also means there will be NO girls in your bed)

So what can you do to turn the tables and make sure your operating from Need #1 when it counts. To guarantee you always give off that “sexual vibe” that women can’t resist?

Well, the good news is, I just put up a short video that shows you exactly how to communicate your sexual interest without looking like a sleezeball and getting rejected.

-→ Use THIS Trick to “Automatically” Get Her Into Bed

….Now, is this trick sneaky? (hell yeah!)

….are you going to be cheating by using it? (you bet)

And the best part is there is nothing special you need to say or do. In fact, this move is so under the radar she won’t have a clue what you’re up to (this becomes very important for hooking up with your female friends or girls at work)

It’s surprisingly easy once you know the secret….

-→ Discover The SECRET to attracting women AUTOMATICALLY

Now Go Get Her!

Chris “Sixty”

P.S. The best part about THIS trick is it works even
better on HOT chicks….In fact she won’t be able to
control her attraction for you. But don’t just take my
word for it, try it tonight on a girl you like
and see for yourself…

-→ Discover The SECRET to attracting women AUTOMATICALLY

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