The Key To First Date Questions

by Bobby Rio

Questions to Ask on a First Date

There is no deeper hole you can dig yourself in with a girl quite like having a terrible first date with her. In fact, if you have a bad first date, there’s pretty much no chance she’s going to agree to going on a second date with her. It’s that old saying: “You only have one chance to make a first impression.”

The key to a first date is knowing the best first date questions to ask her. And the key to knowing what first date questions to ask her, is to keep this in mind:

This is not a job interview!

Interviews at jobs just care about your past experience, where you went to school, what your GPA was, etc. In other words, facts. But when you’re on a first date with a girl, you shouldn’t be asking about these facts. Instead, focus on asking her about her emotions.

It’s a subtle, yet extremely important, distinction.

For example, instead of asking her where she went to school, ask her what her worst first date experience was. This kind of question is so much more interesting in that it will give you the chance to tell a terrible first date story of your own, which will allow the two of you to bond. You’re not going to be able to bond over what school she went to. (Unless you happen to have gone to the same school. But even then, the bonding is superficial.)

A few other examples of good first date questions:

- What was the most adventurous thing you’ve done?

- What is your favorite city in the world?

- What is your biggest weakness?

Keeping her talking about emotions will also make her much more receptive to flirting. And, in turn, make her much more receptive to a first date kiss. (My advice about trying to get a first date kiss: Do it!)

And flirting with her on the first date is so important that I made a video about it:

How to Flirt on a First Date

Make no mistake about it. The normal information about where she grew up, where she went to school, etc. will come out eventually. That’s just the nature of this kind of information. If you go out with her long enough, you’ll know all about her. This is the kind of things that will come out in a second or third date.

But if you don’t focus on getting to know more about her emotions, you’re never going to get that second date.

For more conversation skills building, check out Make Small Talk Sexy: Conversation Escalation

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Does “Eye Contact” Mean She Likes You

by Bobby Rio

If She Looks Looks at You… Does She Like You?

Wanted to address something real quick.

And you might not like it.

But it must be said.

Cuz everyday I get emails that go something like this:

“There is this girl in my Math class {serving me coffee at Starbucks, that I pass in the hall, that I see around around campus, or that I work with…}

“And we make eye contact… And I’m pretty sure that she likes me.
How should I ask her out?”

I hate to break it to you…

But…

Eye contact does not equal attraction.

At best it equals interest.

And if you don’t turn that interest into attraction…

…You got NOTHING.

Guys think you can skip over the attraction phase… but unless you
look like Brad Pitt…

You can’t.

So what do you do?

Before you decide to go for hernumber, confess your feelings to
her, or ask her on a date…

Create a spark of ATTRACTION by FLIRTING with her…

How do you do that?

The best and easiest way to flirt with a girl is to tease her about
something…

…So that girl in class

Jokingly call her a “teacher’s pet” if she raises her hand too much…

…Or a brown noser when she gets the answer right….

That girl walking hurridley past you in the halls…

Tell her that she walks around like she’s on a top secret misson…

That girl serving you your coffee…

Next time you go to pay for your Latte as she reaches for you money… pull it away…

Then go to hand it to her again… when she reaches for it… pull it away again before giving it to her…

That’s creating a little tension…

A little flirtation.

When you “tease” a woman… she knows the deal.. she knows you’re flirting…

(…as long as you’re doin it right.)

And flirting is the first step toward creating attraction…

Once you created a spark of attraction,then you can go for the phone number,or see if she wants to hang out

But you CAN’T SKIP that part.

You have trouble doin this?

Don’t know what to tease a girl about?

Don’t worry.

I got something for you.

And its free.

It’s called the Teasing and Banter
cheat Sheet.

http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/cheat

There’s lines it in that you can use in a dozen differnet situations.

And they work.

Grab it here.

http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/cheat

And stop worrying ‘is she looking at me’ and just make it happen.

Bobby

P.S. If you want a complete education on sparking attraction in a girl, through the use of 5 tools that ALWAYS help create attraction…

Check out Amplify the Attraction

http://www.amplifytheattraction.com

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Examples of How to Flirt with Girls (Video)

by Bobby Rio

Tips for Flirting with Girls

If you want to get girls then it is essential that you know how to flirt with girls.  Flirting is the currency of a seduction.

Check Out Amplify the Attraction

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Building a Business While Seducing Women Around the World (Interview)

by Bobby Rio

Creating the Lifestyle

Recently I did an interview with Tony Ryan, of Next Level Lifestyles.  Tony interviewed me about pickup, travel, and building my business.

It was a fun interview. I think you’ll find some useful tips in here about lifestyle design, having better conversations with women, and the story behind TSB Magazine.

Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy

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How to Get a Girl “Obsessed” with You

by Bobby Rio

How to Keep a Girl Interested in You

It’s about time I address this in an article..

(This is an email you’re going to want to save for future use)

Every day I get dozens of emails from guys around the world wondering why some girl suddenly lost interest in them.
Once I get the details out of them it becomes crystal clear.

They gave their hand away way too soon.

Have you ever had a girl who was once hot for you get cold and distant within a couple weeks? If I had to guess why, I would say that you got too comfortable too quickly, and stopped PLAYING THE GAME.

I know I know.. we all hate ‘the game.’

But you have to play it.

Why?

Because women love going after a guy who is a challenge.

They love it.

They love not knowing what the deal is. Sure, they say they hate it. But they will keep chasing that feeling.

And when you don’t give them “the chase” they usually find another guy who isn’t so hard to figure out.

So how to do you stay a challenge?

For some of us its easy… If you’ve got a reputation around your social circle as a “player”, or are seen as having really high status by the girl, you don’t have the play ‘the game’ as hard.

THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU DON’T HAVE TO PLAY IT.

Trust me, I made that mistake. Sometimes I’ve even made the mistake of thinking I have to show a girl MORE interest because she thinks I’m a player and I need to prove I’m not.

Big Mistake.

The whole reason the girl liked you in the first place was because of your ‘player like’ qualities. Don’t hide them, and don’t give in to the temptation to ‘drop the games.’

Here are the three biggest signs you are about to FUCK UP.

1. You start thinking “I don’t want to play games with this chick. I like her. Why can’t I just let her know.”

2. You think “This girl is different, I don’t have to play games with her.”

3. You think “She definitely likes me. We’re past the point I need to play games.”

The minute any of those thoughts creep into your mind, re-read this email. And DO NOT convince yourself that she is different.

SHE IS NOT DIFFERENT.

She wants to chase you. She wants a challenge. She wants a guy she can not completely figure out.

How to be a challege

A lot guys think that when I say you can’t express interest this means you can’t let a girl know you are attracted to her.

WRONG.

You HAVE to let her know you are attracted to her. To do this you need to know how to talk to women.

Express your sexual intent and attraction all you want.

That is perfectly fine.

But, do no let her know you want more than that. (for at least the first 3 or 4 months)

SHE CAN NOT KNOW YOU WANT HER AS A GIRLFRIEND.

You have to be stone cold impossible to read.

Every time she leaves you she should be wondering if she will ever see you again. She should be wondering how much you like her. She should be wondering if you’re seeing other girls.

Let her wonder.

That is the art of the chase. The more time she sits around wondering what you’re doing… the more she begins to convince herself she is in love with you.

As David D once said “Give her the gift of missing you.”

The second part of keeping the attraction going is being able to continually flip her attraction switches during your time hanging out with her.

I created an entire course on “Flipping her Attraction Switches“

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