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Secrets Behind “3 Questions That Turn Her On…”

by Bobby Rio

Pandora’s Box 3 Questions That Turn Her On

Warning: This email contains some “deeper level” ideas. This post was inspired after going through Vin Dicarlo’s Pandora’s Box program.

I am going to give you a “short cut” for reading a woman’s mind, and influencing her decisions.

And it all starts with:

“Values”

When you understand someone’s “core values” you can pretty much predict the decisions they will make throughout their life.

You can also easily influence those decisions pretty quickly.

Let’s take ME for example…

Awhile back, through a process of narrowing down and eliminating, I discovered that my core value in life is “freedom.”

And without me having known it… unconsciously EVERY decision throughout my life has been influenced by that “core value.”

Values Determine Life Decisions

… I chose a career in writing because it allowed me the freedom to live where I choose

… I chose to study “pickup” because it allowed me the freedom of choice when it comes to who I date

… I chose all of my girlfriends based on how much perceived “freedom” they would allow me

My “core value” also dictates what turns me on…

…I’m turned on by random experiences and spontaneity

…I’m turned on by women who represent a feeling of ‘anything’s possible’

…I’m turned on by people that I see as having some power to move me closer towards freedom

Not only that, but based on my core value of “freedom” certain people, places, and things are IMMEDIATELY disqualified.

For instance, I would never seriously consider dating a girl who was controlling or who was in a rush to start a family. I would never make a purchase that saddled me with dept. And I wouldn’t take a job that didn’t give me the opportunity to move freely around the world…

But here is one MAJOR MISTAKE made over the years…

I’ve assumed that everyone shares the same “core value” as me…

Which is why I could never understand it when my friend Sal married a girl who keeps him on a short leash.

I never understood how friends of mine do the daily 9-5 grind in an office job.

Nor have I understood how people I know don’t have a constant desire to educate themselves and understand the world better.

But now I understand it crystal clear: Everyone has a different “core value.”

Everyone Has Different “Core Values”

The reason my friend Sal chose to marry his controlling girlfriend, work as a middle school math teacher, and purchase a house fifteen minutes away from the town he grew up in is because his core value is FAMILY.

I have another friend Daryl whose core value is ACHIEVEMENT. Every life decision he makes somehow relates to his desire to achieve success.

…When you begin to recognize this about people it is like you are given a glimpse inside their brain, and now possess the ability to influence their decisions by appealing to their “core value.”

Having known this about “core values” for some time… I was immediately intrigued by the idea of Pandora’s Box Mind Reading System.

The premise of the program is women will respond to different types of “seduction” based on which personality type they are.

As I went through Pandora’s Box what I realized was that ultimately what the system teaches is how to quickly identify the “Core values” of the women you’re talking to.

You see, I can tell you my friends or my girlfriends “core value” because I’ve spent enough time with them to know a long history of past decisions they’ve made.

However, when you are first meeting a woman you don’t have all of this same information to use to identify her.

This is where Pandora’s Box comes into play.

Vin Dicarlo’s Pandora’s Box

Vin Dicarlo basically figured out that there are 3 MAIN conflicts of the female mind. And understanding her position on these three conflicts will basically allow you to understand her “Core value” which in turn, allows you to ‘read her mind’ and turn her on.

Dicarlo actually expands upon this idea of “core value” by identifying different personality traits that each woman has based on her position on the “three conflicts of the female mind.”

Seems complex?

It really isn’t.

It is very similar to the self analysis I did awhile back to determine that my “core value” was freedom. I basically used a process of elimination that allowed me to identify ‘freedom’ as my core value.

Vin never uses the word “core value.” He instead refers to it as the Conflicts of the Female Mind.

He gives you a bunch of “innocent” questions you can ask to figure out her stance on these three conflicts of the human mind.

Pandora’s takes it a step further though.

What he does then is he identifies all of the common character and personality traits of women who share the same “core position” on these three conflicts of the female mind.

…And then he gives you a Strategy Guide for seducing each type.

==> This video explains more about Pandora’s Box

BRILLIANT.

If you don’t think its possible than you obliviously don’t understand the power our ‘core values’ have over us and the decisions we make, and what ultimately ‘turns us on.’

Here are some of the other things you’ll learn in Pandora’s Box:

Mind-Read her type (This takes 60 seconds)
Remember 3 things about her (Never more than 3 things. Often less!)
Use a sniper-targeted strategy (Not a “shotgun” method that doesn’t work)
A complete Strategy Guide for each of the 8 “types”

Pandora’s Box is broken down into 12 PDFs and 11 videos. This way Vin takes the time in each video to explain this idea of “the 3 conflicts of the female mind.”

But then dedicates an entire PDF and series of videos to walking you through a strategy guide for seducing each type once you’ve identified them.

Here is the thing about Pandora’s Box…

I LOVE psychology. I LOVE understanding why people act the way they do. I LOVE being able to connect with a woman on a deeper level…

So for me… this program was like CRACK.

This program is not everyone. You need to have that same love of psychology and desire to understand the way women think….

But if you put the time in to learn this…

Not only will it help you seduce more women throughout your life… It will help you have better relationships with girlfriends or wives.

Watch this video which explains Pandora’s Box much better than I possible can in this email.

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2 “Underrated” Flirting Tips

by Bobby Rio

2 Flirting Tips

I’ve been on kick recently, going out and experimenting with different flirting techniques.

First off, it is pretty damn fun to go out with a mindset of experimentation. It takes all the pressure off and allows you to indulge in your sense of curiosity.

If you’re not seeing results with what you’re doing now… why not say screw it, and just do the opposite of everything you’d normally do and see what happens.

Did you ever see that episode of Seinfeld with George changes his life by just doing the opposite? Might be worth a shot for you…

Anyway, during my last couple weeks “experimenting” in the field I was reminded of three flirting tools that I don’t use nearly as often as I should.

And I wanted to pass them along to you.

1. Radical Honesty

I actually made a vow to myself to try using “radical honesty” after watching a few episodes of Californication recently. If you’ve never watched the show… go rent it now. The main character, Hank Moody, epitomizes the idea of using “honesty” as a flirting tool.

The whole idea of this tool is to basically not filter your thoughts. And not hide your intentions.

For instance, if a girl asks you what you do for a living and your first reaction is to make something up or change the subject, you could turn it into a flirting opportunity by saying:

“Yea, I’m trying to think of up something big and fancy to impress you… maybe increase my odds a little bit. What kind of job would I have to have to really get your libido rocking?”

The key to this flirting tool is that you’ve got to keep it up throughout the interaction. The great part is once you’ve established yourself as ‘bluntly honest’ you can really get away with saying ANYTHING.

2. Disqualifiers

Last week I was in the middle of a conversation with a girl I had a good vibe with. Because I have a girlfriend at the moment, I wanted to try to diffuse the situation before I wound up doing something I would regret.

So I decided to start disqualifying myself to her.

Little did I know it had the exact opposite effect and wound up making her want me more.

Me: If I wasn’t such an asshole we might really hit it off
Her: Shut up, you’re not an asshole.
Me: No, seriously I’m an asshole. I come across really charming at first, but eventually, I become the guy you are constantly bitching to your friends about.
Her: What makes you an asshole?
Me: Oh a whole ton of reasons. First off, I have a huge ego. And I’m completely self-centered. I have the attention span of a child… (I begin looking away like I lost my train of thought) Oh… and I ALWAYS leave the toilet seat up… no matter how many times you’ll tell me to keep it down.. I refuse.

Needless to say, everything I was saying was making the girl laugh, and created a very flirtatious vibe. And left an easy transition into a role play situation.

You can use disqualifiers with just about anything. The more absurd the better.

These are just two flirting tools you might want to try out the next time you’re talking to a girl. But more importantly, is for you to keep the mindset of experimentation.

Here is the thing… once you know the five attraction switches you’ll begin to see that there are a variety of ways to continue flipping the switch.

If you want to learn how to use these 5 switches to trigger, control, and amplify the attraction, check out my brand new program:

http://www.amplifytheattraction.com

My goal with this program was to make it as easy as possible for you to learn how to trigger attraction in a woman.

Take Care,

Bobby Rio

P.S. Remember, the more you experiment with the 5 attraction switches the more you’ll figure out what sort of flirting style works best for you.

http://www.amplifytheattraction.com

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The Secrets of “Influential” People

by Bobby Rio

How to Be Cool

INFLUENCERS TRAILER

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How to Tell if A Girl Likes You

by Bobby Rio

5 Ways to Tell a Girl Likes You… or Is Just Being Friendly

Most guys have a really hard time knowing if a girl likes them… or is just being friendly. Since most guys don’t are sure not sure of what flirting signs to look for, they have no way of really knowing how interested or attracted a girl is in them.

Additional article: http://www.tsbmag.com/2009/10/22/how-to-tell-if-a-girl-likes-you-%E2%80%A6-5-signs-to-look-for/

Let’s take the time right now to really break down what flirting signs a woman will give you that she likes you… so that you can always tell if a girl likes you. We’ll also break down the manor indicators of interest (IOIs) and indicators of disinterest.

To understand this we’ll start in two steps:

Let’s understand:

1. What are the signals that a woman is not interested in you? These are often referred to as indicators of disinterest.

And then…

2. What are the major flirting signs that a woman is interested in you. These are often referred to as indicators of interest (IOIs).

With this approach it will help us gain some understanding of the criteria that is most important.

1. What are signs she doesn’t like you?

a.) To put it simply if a woman doesn’t like you she will often try to avoid being around you. If you’ve just approached her at a bar… she will likely excuse herself to use the bathroom or go look for her friends. If you’ve known her for awhile she will NOT make time to hang out with you. If a girl likes you, she will always make time to be around you.

b.) Another way to tell that a girl doesn’t like you is if she continually mentions her boyfriend. If a girl brings up her boyfriend (or any other guys) around you, then chances are she is trying to send you the signal that she is not interested in you.

c.) If a girl doesn’t like you she will avoid asking you any questions that could be mistaken as interest. She will refrain from asking you about your personal life. And will usually let the conversation die out first opportunity she has.

d.) If a girl doesn’t like you she will avoid your phone calls, and will seldom call you back. If you call a girl, and she responds with a text message… chances are she is not interested in you.

e.) She doesn’t flirt with you. If a woman is interested in you she will generally display some flirting signs. If she isn’t displaying any flirting signs than chances are she is not attracted to you.

I think its important to be able to recognize signs a woman doesn’t like you because it prevents you from getting emotionally caught up in a woman who is not interested in you in the same way. It also prevents you from wasting your night out talking to a woman who is clearly not going to give you her number or see you again.

Now in a little bit I’m going to give you the exact flirting signs a girl will present when she likes you. But first I want to cover the basic signals a woman is interested in you.

2. How a Girl Acts When She Likes You

a.) When a girl likes you she will make the effort to be around you. This means that even if her friends change locations in a bar, she will stay behind to continue to talk to you. It also means that no matter how busy she is… she will make time to hang out with you.

b.) When a girl likes you she will display various flirting signs (listed below.) She will be overtly trying to let you know that she is open for you to advance.

c.) One of the best ways to tell if a girl likes you is to pay attention to her body language. If a girl likes you she will more than likely display certain body language traits (listed below.)

d.) Another good way to know if a girl likes you is to judge how she acts toward you compared to how she acts towards other guys. Is she more flirtatious? Is she more nervous?

e.) Is she “touchy feely” with you?

f.) If a girl likes you she will dig for personal information. She will attempt to determine if you are single.

Now, in a minute I’m going to give you some more flirting signs a girl will give to let you know she likes you.

“Attraction Tests”

But first I wanted to talk a little bit about “active attraction tests.” These are little “tests” you can give a girl to quickly determine how interested she is in you.

These attraction tests are the most sure-fire way to know exactly where you stand with a girl. This way… even if she is not being blatant about the signals she is giving you.. you can still know if she likes you.

You’ll never have to ask yourself “how to tell if a girl likes you?”

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Mistakes Men Make Flirting With Women

by Bobby Rio

Flirting Tips and Mistakes to Avoid

Almost every guy who is successful with women is good at flirting with girls. It is one of the most common traits amongst “players.” However, if you don’t know how to flirt properly you might find yourself frustrated with the lack of results. In this article I will discuss the most common mistakes men make when learning how to flirt with women.

1. They don’t create a fun and playful vibe.

Contrary to how a lot of movies and television portray the concept of attraction, a woman becomes attracted to the man who she views as fun and playful. Too many men think that attraction occurs on a logical level. This causes them to try to get serious with women, talk intellectually, and present a logical argument for why she should feel attraction for him. But attraction isn’t logical.

This is why it is important to be fun and playful with your flirting. When a woman is meeting you for the first time, before she cares about how great of a guy you are… she wants to know if she can have fun with you. Because if she is bored, chances are you won’t have enough time to spark attraction.

2. They go overboard on their teasing

Many men realize that teasing a woman is one of the best ways to flirt with women. Unfortunately, they go about it all wrong. Too many men use sarcastic teases that comes across as mean and hurtful rather than the playful vibe that flirting is supposed to possess.

The best way to remember to keep it playful (and not hurtful) is to just avoid sarcasm and instead go for playground humor. Playground humor is that immature style of humor you used to tease your childhood crush with back on the playground in the fourth grade. It worked then… it works now.

3. They worry too much about what a woman thinks of them

Here is a secret to flirting: If you learn how to flirt with women the right way… you will be so far above the rest of the competition that she will be like putty in your hands. The problem is, most guys are so worried what the woman will think of them, that they become awkward, stiff, nervous, cautious, and boring. And remember, women HATE boring guys.

Now that you’ve learned some flirting techniques and flirting tips, it is time to go out there and practice them. If you really want to get better at flirting, you’ll need to be out there talking to women.

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