Steps To Overcome Shyness and Become a Dominant, Alpha Male Who Attracts Women

5 Deadly Mistakes “Shy Guys” Make In Their Conversation…
Man Talking to Woman in Bar

Man Talking to Woman in Bar

Let’s face it…

If you want to create attraction in a woman… you MUST possess the ability to TALK.

You can know all the “secret attraction building techniques” in the world… but if you can’t carry a conversation… YOU GET NO WHERE….

I want to concentrate on the exact ways you’re killing your conversations… probably without realizing it…. And then I’m going to show you how to overcome your shyness… and quickly become a smooth talking, alpha male…

Mistake #1:  Worrying too Much About Being Cool…

This  is pretty personal for me… because I was the DEFINITION of an introvert.   And it wasn’t just with women.  I had

How a Shy Guy can Talk To Girls

How a Shy Guy can Talk To Girls

trouble talking to anyone outside of my small circle of friends.

And this was the biggest frustration I felt while trying to learn how to attract women.  I knew what to say… but couldn’t bring myself to say it.  And whenever I got into a conversation with a woman my mind would sort of freeze up, and even though my friends would tell me this cool stuff to say… I would hear myself saying the same boring stuff.

I’m going to tell you what changed EVERYTHING for me.

It was when I stopped trying so hard to appear “cool.”

A major reason a lot of guys can’t bring themselves to open up around women is because they are so focused on seeming “cool.”  This causes them to OVER THINK everything.

But here is a lesson that took me a LONG time to figure out.  Women don’t want “cool.”  They want FUN.

They are EXTREMELY forgiving of corny jokes, slip ups, blunders… if they are having fun talking to you.

So tonight, when you’re out- give yourself permission to be a little silly.

And for god sakes LOOSEN up a bit.

Mistake #2: Breaking the 90/10 Rule When Starting a Conversation

Have you ever noticed that most conversations don’t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in?

This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up – making yourself ready to start that conversation.

A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.”

The problem most guys face is that don’t ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.”

Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly.  And because of this the opposite effect happens… and their conversations just “stall out.”

Well you have to carry the conversation. Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by providing 90, or even sometimes 100, percent of all the content until they get warmed up a little bit.

How do you do that?

Keep talking!

Well the rule is very simple: Just keep talking.

By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.”

In my video I teach something I call the Triangle of Temptation which gives you a good guideline of where to steer a conversation.

Mistake #3:  Not Assuming Rapport Right From the Beginning

For the longest time I could never understand why it took so long for me to develop rapport with women… while my friends seem to jump right into it…

And then it hit me…

I was waiting for rapport to happen naturally… they were assuming it.

When you are talking to a woman, even if it’s your first time talking to her… talk to her in the same laid back way you would talk to an old friend.

Most guys do the complete opposite… they talk to a woman in a “stiff, formal” way reserved for strangers…. And this just makes it more apparent that you are a STRANGER.  And this puts her guard up.  And this creates that uncomfortable “awkwardness” that is devastating to a conversation.

By jumping right into rapport you create a more natural feeling conversation and give her the feeling of “knowing you forever.”

Mistake #4: Going into “Interview Mode”

Shy Guy Flirting with Girl

Shy Guy Flirting with Girl

I know you’ve experienced it… talking to a woman, and feeling like you’re on a job interview.

This is the dreaded “interview mode.”

This happens when you don’t know what to talk about so to keep the conversation going you ask questions like:

What do you do for a living?
What do you do for fun?
Where did you grow up?
What kind of music do you like?

It’s not the questions themselves that kill you… the rapid firing of question after question… and the steady stream of fact based answers that destroy any sort of “chemistry.”

A conversation is supposed to fun vibing back and forth… it’s not supposed to feel like a job interview.

In my video I also talk about “Taking Her Back to the Playground” which is all about avoiding the boring conversation- and turning it into a fun game.

Click the Next Page to learn “The Biggest Mistake”

 

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Michael May 18, 2012 at 3:05 pm

Yeah… good advice and heads up for the next chicklette… 🙂

m.h May 20, 2012 at 2:20 am

waitting to your sending

mohammad homaei May 20, 2012 at 2:24 am

I will be happy to receve your recommendation

Masha May 20, 2012 at 9:46 pm

Wht if u want to date a stranger,passing by or at bus stages?

Fredalin amoke May 21, 2012 at 5:26 am

wow,bobby rio,you are the hit man

peter kajobe May 21, 2012 at 12:30 pm

IAM out of mistakes now.But, does touching a woman like that kill her? if i touch a woman and she say whats wrong with you toaday what should be the answer since it is the first time for me to touch her body in a funny way?

Jamal June 6, 2012 at 10:04 am

Man, this is great advice!
These not only apply to talking to women, but to pretty much anyone. If talkaucology ever existed, you’d be the master of it, Bobby! 🙂

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